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Old 01-18-2019, 11:25 PM   #1
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Is it anti-woman of me to not side with women all the time? There are some cases in which the woman is clearly doing something wrong against a man (for example, in a certain divorce case I know).

Can't I sometimes just look at people not as a man or a woman but from a logical and generic standpoint: Who as a person, as a human being, is doing what is right in this situation?
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Old 01-19-2019, 04:37 AM   #2
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No I dont think so at all. I think its admirable that you are using your own mind and judgement to form an opinion. I think its great that you are willing to be so fair. I do not think anyone should side with one gender or another simply because you are that gender.
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Is it anti-woman of me to not side with women all the time? There are some cases in which the woman is clearly doing something wrong against a man (for example, in a certain divorce case I know).

Can't I sometimes just look at people not as a man or a woman but from a logical and generic standpoint: Who as a person, as a human being, is doing what is right in this situation?


Exactly, it's sexist to agree with someone based on their gender rather than their argument/behaviour. If we were truly gender blind we would just agree with what was right. You are the one in the right here, not these sexist women.
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It seems obvious that you wouldn't agree with someone simply because they are female. Or male for that matter. Is someone in your life trying to convince you otherwise, Ennie? Perhaps you need to take a step back from the relationship for a moment if someone is trying to get you to agree to things you do not support. Set a boundary. Good luck
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I say that it's not anti-woman to disagree with another woman. I'm all for moral support and all, but enabling poor behavior and choices(thinking about specific related threads) is not being supportive, in my humble opinion.
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I think you are doing the right thing.
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I agree with all the other women on this thread, but not always with someone just because she's a woman.
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If a man is correct and a woman is incorrect, I think it would be rather silly to agree with the woman just because she's a woman.
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I Is someone in your life trying to convince you otherwise, Ennie? Perhaps you need to take a step back from the relationship for a moment if someone is trying to get you to agree to things you do not support. Set a boundary. Good luck
That's true. In a divorce case that I know, I feel pressured to join the "female team" and I am seen as either cold or a party-pooper otherwise. But I just can't support vindictive behaviors, or lie for someone. In other words, I don't want to do something that violates my conscience just to fit into the female team.

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That's true. In a divorce case that I know, I feel pressured to join the "female team" and I am seen as either cold or a party-pooper otherwise. But I just can't support vindictive behaviors, or lie for someone. In other words, I don't want to do something that violates my conscience just to fit into the female team.
Of course you don't want to do that. Understandable. We must always be true to our own value system...female or male really has nothing to do with it. If the folks in the divorce case are suggesting otherwise, I might speculate that there is really something else going on with their motivations and drives. We can't support anyone, male or female, via vindictive behaviors or lies.

I hope you are able to have distance from the folks you mention. That is not good energy to have around you. The older I get, the more careful I am about the energy I allow into my life. There's no 100% fix of course because we all need to work with difficult colleagues at times or run into a rude stranger etc. But if these folks are close to you, you might like to take a step back for a while. Peace and positive energy to you Ennie
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