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Old 12-09-2018, 12:26 AM   #1
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I'm In my late 40's never been married & no kids.when I tell men that they rudely say to me what's the matter with you & give me weird looks like they are judging me
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Old 12-09-2018, 02:43 AM   #2
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This world is so judgemental. I'm sorry that you have met so many people like this . nobody seems to ask men that question when they are still single and no kids . everyone is different. Wouldn't it be boring if we were all the same . i hope you meet someone who doesn't act like that . try not to let them get to you.
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Some men think women can't live good lives without them. I have several single, never married, no children friends who live very good lives, so please don't let such men get to you. Okay?
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Old 12-09-2018, 03:33 PM   #4
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I'm In my late 40's never been married & no kids.when I tell men that they rudely say to me what's the matter with you & give me weird looks like they are judging me
Really? I am in my late 40s never married, no kids, and if someone said that to me I would punch them. I mean not on purpose I feel it would just happen.

There is nothing wrong with you next time say there is nothing wrong with me what is wrong with me of this generation that they can't tempt me.
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Sorry they act that way. I am tired of even trying to find a relationship..I am much older than 40. Try not to worry about what guys like that think. There are some good ones still.
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Old 12-14-2018, 06:31 AM   #6
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I am only a teen but I have no plans of marrying or having children either. I just want to live a self-fulfilling life, which may or may not include a doctorate in science, or even social life... my best wishes to you. I've a favorite quote from Mr.Robot, it goes like this.


"You wanna know what I believe? That this isn't the end, that there's another world out there for both of us. That we'll see each other again. And we'll play, and dance, and bake, and sing. Doesn't that sound beautiful? Will you believe with me?"

Whyis this quote my favorite? No matter what happens in this life, I believe that there will be an eternal, blessed life forever. I am not religious, but I believe there are some things that religion and science cannot answer for.
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Interesting thread! I had a discussion recently where I asked a woman married for 40 years with two daughters how she rated living with men. She said, "I got married to a man who I saw as my dream person, he was some sort of projection of everything that I thought that I wanted I life. When I woke up to my own responsibility in idealising this human being, my husband accused me of emasculating him. We still have to work on our relationship all the time."


Perhaps men and women put their dreams onto potential partners, and the more distressed we all are the more frustrated dreams we project. I read recently a social survey that it takes 20 year old students on average 50 hours of interaction to form a new friendship, so why do we expect to find our mate in one evening?


There is something wrong, and we all need to stand up and work on our expectations?


PLUS.... I WOULD LIKE SOME SERIOUS FEEDBACK. Do you think that having suffered emotionally means that we deepen our understanding of ourselves, and we need to find a way to integrate that understanding into people's more superficial lives????

I get asked by women why I never had kids, and nowadays I cover by saying, "it's a long story". If I said, "well, I was tortured by my father as a child and it took me decades to come to terms with that suffering", people would feel "sad" for five minutes, and then they would start talking about shopping.

How do we make real life relationships that are gentler to ourselves and to other people?


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I'm In my late 40's never been married & no kids.when I tell men that they rudely say to me what's the matter with you & give me weird looks like they are judging me
Those men are really immature, who say that to you. I'm in my late 40s too, without children and I've never been married.

Society has changed, and some men just refuse to accept these changes that concern women being happy and successful in their lives without being married with children.

Actually, there are studies and research that show single women are happier than married women.
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I'm In my late 40's never been married & no kids.when I tell men that they rudely say to me what's the matter with you & give me weird looks like they are judging me
It takes different things to make a happy life for each person. Sometimes it's kind of a challenge to find what those things are for yourself. But ask yourself, who are you hurting? What's it to them what you do with your life??

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I get asked that all the time too. My answer for the last two decades has been “haven’t met a man deserving of myself yet”.
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