Psych Central

Go Back   Forums at Psych Central > Health & Other Support > Transgender & Other Gender Support



advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Unread 09-13-2017, 06:39 AM   #1
Newly Joined
EMc509 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2017
Location: USA
Posts: 1
Frown My internal struggle

Hello and sorry for the long rant in advance. I just really need to vent💁
I guess I should just get straight to the point. I have had gender disforia issues for as long as I can remember. As a young child I was quiet and lonely. I would fantasize about being girl and wear my sister's clothes quite often. Something in my head told me I should NEVER tell ANYONE about my thoughts. I thought it was a hopeless fantasy until I saw a hospital TV show where the 2 part story line was about a doctor (played by actor Robert Reed of Brady Bunch fame) getting a sex change operation. I was SO excited about the chance that my thoughts of being a real woman could be true! But as I said, I never opened up about my thoughts to anyone. In fact,I sometimes thought that it was evil(catholic guilt I guess).
My crossdressing continued into my mid-teen years, until I was almost caught in the act. I decided that this was NOT normal and repressed my feelings through my adolescent years. I was and still am attracted to women. I dated a lot of girls and became hyper-macho on the outside with my looks, attitude and career choice. But jumped at ANY chance to let my inner self out. Like Halloween or something like that. Would always play it as a joke, but it was no joke to me.
Fast forward to a few years ago. I'm very happily married with 2 great kids. Have a decent job and nice house. On the outside things couldn't have looked better. But inside I was hurting. My depression (which I have also struggled with since my youth) was taking hold. And my gender thoughts were becoming overwhelming. To try and cope with it, I tried bringing it into my sex life with my wife under the guise of being kinky. But that too became not enough. My wife started to complain about the way things were going in the bedroom. Then, about 7 years ago I was about to have a mental breakdown. And while laying in bed with my wife, I finally admitted to part of my thoughts. I told her that I "might " be a crossdresser! Surprisingly she was supportive . I felt like a great weight was lifted off of me! So then I thought things would be ok. But quickly she grew tired and worried about it. She asked when would it stop. To which I honestly replied "I don't know if it will".
A few weeks later she had unintentionally said something that made my heart sink! Through my confusion, my depression came on FULL Force. To the point where I was having suicidal thoughts unlike I have had since my youth. The pressure had gotten so bad that I parked my vehicle on the shoulder of a tall bridge and was about to jump. The ONLY thing that kept me from doing it was that it was my son's birthday and I couldn't do that to him.
I immediately sought counseling for my issues. I found a counselor specializing in "trans" issues and she diagnosed me with gender dysphoria and clinical depression. I was given some medication for depression and continued therapy for a year or so until it started to turn into marriage counseling due to the fact that it was a big concern me. I stopped and "tried" to control my feelings for the sake of my family.
About a year after that my feelings became uncontrollable again. I found a new therapist and things were going well. He taught me to embrace my feelings and helped me find a doctor to try new medicine to help me. 18 months later I started HRT. I was elated! My wife got onboard and things really started to look up. I even had the courage to go to a "trans" weekend event where I would dress how I wanted and meet others like me.
But as soon as I got back, my wife broke down and cried! She was worried about losing her husband and soulmate. She explained to me the best she could about her feelings about my issues and our family. So, because my family means everything me, I put all of my feelings away and stopped EVERYTHING. The reward is now my family life/marriage is perfect again. But I know that I can't suppress my thoughts and feelings for ever and I am worried when I won't be able to control it anymore.
EMc509 is offline   Reply With Quote
Hugs from:

advertisement
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 05:18 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2017, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.

advertisement

 

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice,
diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.
Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.

 

HomeAbout UsContact UsPrivacy PolicyTerms of UseDisclaimer
Forums HomeCommunity GuidelinesHelp

Helplines and Lifelines