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Old 10-13-2016, 08:14 PM   #1
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Arrow Does anyone else hate music suggestions?

I absolutely love listening to music and I'm always looking for new songs and bands, but I always find myself never listening to or liking music suggestions, even if the band/song is exactly the type of music I listen to. Sometimes someone will suggest a band/song and I hate it, but months later I come across it myself and completely adore it. I think I've finally figured out why.

To me, music is very intimate. I listen to music to express my emotions and put into words things I otherwise can't. I usually find and connect with music depending on what is going on with my life at the time and how I'm feeling. If I'm happy overall, I might find myself listening to happy, upbeat songs. If I'm feeling depressed, I might find myself listening to heavy metal. If I'm anxious, I'll listen to something like Twenty One Pilots.

The reason I don't like music: I don't like others telling me what to feel. A lot of people listen for the beat or maybe the lyrics, but they aren't as personal as me. It's like they're telling me "hey feel this way" or even if someone said "I bought you this underwear please where it." Music to me is intimate, private, and a very personal experience. I don't like people telling me what to listen to or how to feel about it.

As a side note, this is why I hate music bashing. I'll joke that country is the worst (I only think that because the lyrics are repetitive and I can never connect to them), but I would never bash someone for listening to it. If that person connects and expresses themselves over country songs, then that's their own thing. I have no right to judge something that I believe to be personal.
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Default Re: Does anyone else hate music suggestions?

I feel that way too. I understand you.
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Same thing..
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I get that too, especially if the person who suggested it keeps looking at me for my reaction.
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Old 11-28-2017, 02:39 AM   #5
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Default Re: Does anyone else hate music suggestions?

I feel differently. Though loving my chosen genre, I appreciate someone asking me an opinion on their's because they have made an effort into getting to know me more and are taking interest in music as a whole.

I'm a professional musician and have an established band. If fans ask me for an opinion, then they might receive what they expect. I would no way be rude or arrogant, but give reasons for liking or disliking as it will help them.

I agree with the OP about music bashing. I may have a dislike for a particular genre, but no way would i wish to insult another musician's choice.

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Default Re: Does anyone else hate music suggestions?

I can be like that if someone doesn't know me very well. However, if someone I'm close to, or if I ask for them. I can enjoy it. I agree with you that music is very intimate.
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