My family trained me to be a victim and a bully

HappyCrafter · 10-16-2018, 07:58 PM

In psychotherapy, I resolved the problems I had that fueled that terrible need that seemed like it controlled me.

I work hard on my mental health problems, and do my best to be reasonable. I have Complex PTSD and struggle with being polite when it gets triggered.

Many years ago, I trolled people on the internet, not realizing why I did that. I was conditioned to fight back when someone was arrogant or belittled me. That was part of how I was raised. My family belittled me so when I experienced that in my life, I went on the attack, covertly, in the privacy of my home, behind my computer screen.

Has anyone else experienced this? Are you aware that you might be bullying others?

It's a miserable way to live and in no way could possibly end well or provide happiness. I am grateful I got help and now, I am better.

nicoleflynn · 10-17-2018, 08:23 AM

I was verbally and physically abused as a child and made a vow to never be like that; I broke the cycle. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. If we are aware of what happened to us, we can stop it.

HappyCrafter · 10-17-2018, 08:58 AM

Good for you!!!!! I agree; gaining the awareness is so important! You GO, Girl!!! xoxoxoxox

HappyCrafter · 10-17-2018, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by nicoleflynn

I was verbally and physically abused as a child and made a vow to never be like that; I broke the cycle. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. If we are aware of what happened to us, we can stop it.

I am sorry you had to go through that.

But I am so glad you got better!!

golden_eve · 10-17-2018, 12:21 PM

I can’t relate but you sound very self aware and like you’ve come a long way! Congrats and kudos to you for all your hard work!!

HappyCrafter · 10-17-2018, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by golden_eve

I can’t relate but you sound very self aware and like you’ve come a long way! Congrats and kudos to you for all your hard work!!

I have worked hard to get better. Thank you! You put a great big smile on my face!!

ae1987 · 10-24-2018, 08:43 AM

I experience that my family is nothing but bullies its how we're all raised. The good news is like me you work hard not to be and recognize it!

HappyCrafter · 10-24-2018, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by ae1987

I experience that my family is nothing but bullies its how we're all raised. The good news is like me you work hard not to be and recognize it!

Yes, we CAN change and stop that terrible unproductive behavior. Good for you!!!!!

Buffy01 · 10-24-2018, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by nicoleflynn

I was verbally and physically abused as a child and made a vow to never be like that; I broke the cycle. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. If we are aware of what happened to us, we can stop it.

I was verbally and physically abuse and troll on the internet by my family.

HappyCrafter · 10-24-2018, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Buffy01

I was verbally and physically abuse and troll on the internet by my family.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Buffy01))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Honey, I am so sorry to hear this.

10-16-2018, 07:58 PM	#1
HappyCrafter Poohbah HappyCrafter Project is moving FULL Steam Ahead!! Member Since: Jul 2017 Location: MO Posts: 1,444 (SuperPoster!) My Mood: 1,908 hugs given	My family trained me to be a victim and a bully In psychotherapy, I resolved the problems I had that fueled that terrible need that seemed like it controlled me. I work hard on my mental health problems, and do my best to be reasonable. I have Complex PTSD and struggle with being polite when it gets triggered. Many years ago, I trolled people on the internet, not realizing why I did that. I was conditioned to fight back when someone was arrogant or belittled me. That was part of how I was raised. My family belittled me so when I experienced that in my life, I went on the attack, covertly, in the privacy of my home, behind my computer screen. Has anyone else experienced this? Are you aware that you might be bullying others? It's a miserable way to live and in no way could possibly end well or provide happiness. I am grateful I got help and now, I am better. __________________ If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves. Thomas A. Edison *My efforts to increase awareness on mental health issues Secretly Brainwashed to Bully and Troll* is in Creative Corner.** Sobriety Fangirl Since 11/16/2007. Google Blog: RecoveryinBalance.HOW Health issues: Complex PTSD, Clinical Depression, Traumatic Amnesia from CA/DV, Alcoholism, Chronic Fatigue and Pain, RA, Osteorthritis, TOS, DDD, DJD, Spinal Stenosis, Morbid Obesity, Fibro...

10-17-2018, 08:23 AM	#2
nicoleflynn Magnate nicoleflynn has no updates. Member Since: Jan 2012 Location: rochester, michigan Posts: 2,789 51 hugs given	Re: My family trained me to be a victim and a bully I was verbally and physically abused as a child and made a vow to never be like that; I broke the cycle. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. If we are aware of what happened to us, we can stop it.

10-17-2018, 08:58 AM	#3
HappyCrafter Poohbah HappyCrafter Project is moving FULL Steam Ahead!! Member Since: Jul 2017 Location: MO Posts: 1,444 (SuperPoster!) My Mood: 1,908 hugs given	Re: My family trained me to be a victim and a bully Good for you!!!!! I agree; gaining the awareness is so important! You GO, Girl!!! xoxoxoxox __________________ If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves. Thomas A. Edison *My efforts to increase awareness on mental health issues Secretly Brainwashed to Bully and Troll* is in Creative Corner.** Sobriety Fangirl Since 11/16/2007. Google Blog: RecoveryinBalance.HOW Health issues: Complex PTSD, Clinical Depression, Traumatic Amnesia from CA/DV, Alcoholism, Chronic Fatigue and Pain, RA, Osteorthritis, TOS, DDD, DJD, Spinal Stenosis, Morbid Obesity, Fibro...

10-17-2018, 12:21 PM	#5
golden_eve Grand Magnate golden_eve has no updates. Member Since: Sep 2015 Location: Northeast, USA Posts: 4,758 (SuperPoster!) My Mood: 3,327 hugs given	Re: My family trained me to be a victim and a bully I can’t relate but you sound very self aware and like you’ve come a long way! Congrats and kudos to you for all your hard work!! __________________ "You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice." ~Bob Marley

10-24-2018, 08:43 AM	#7
ae1987 Junior Member ae1987 has no updates. Member Since: Oct 2018 Location: Ohio Posts: 14 My Mood: 4 hugs given	Re: My family trained me to be a victim and a bully I experience that my family is nothing but bullies its how we're all raised. The good news is like me you work hard not to be and recognize it!

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