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Old 10-16-2018, 07:58 PM   #1
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In psychotherapy, I resolved the problems I had that fueled that terrible need that seemed like it controlled me.

I work hard on my mental health problems, and do my best to be reasonable. I have Complex PTSD and struggle with being polite when it gets triggered.

Many years ago, I trolled people on the internet, not realizing why I did that. I was conditioned to fight back when someone was arrogant or belittled me. That was part of how I was raised. My family belittled me so when I experienced that in my life, I went on the attack, covertly, in the privacy of my home, behind my computer screen.

Has anyone else experienced this? Are you aware that you might be bullying others?

It's a miserable way to live and in no way could possibly end well or provide happiness. I am grateful I got help and now, I am better.
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Old 10-17-2018, 08:23 AM   #2
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I was verbally and physically abused as a child and made a vow to never be like that; I broke the cycle. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. If we are aware of what happened to us, we can stop it.
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Good for you!!!!! I agree; gaining the awareness is so important! You GO, Girl!!! xoxoxoxox
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I was verbally and physically abused as a child and made a vow to never be like that; I broke the cycle. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. If we are aware of what happened to us, we can stop it.
I am sorry you had to go through that. But I am so glad you got better!!
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I canít relate but you sound very self aware and like youíve come a long way! Congrats and kudos to you for all your hard work!!
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I canít relate but you sound very self aware and like youíve come a long way! Congrats and kudos to you for all your hard work!!
I have worked hard to get better. Thank you! You put a great big smile on my face!!
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I experience that my family is nothing but bullies its how we're all raised. The good news is like me you work hard not to be and recognize it!
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I experience that my family is nothing but bullies its how we're all raised. The good news is like me you work hard not to be and recognize it!
Yes, we CAN change and stop that terrible unproductive behavior. Good for you!!!!!
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I was verbally and physically abuse and troll on the internet by my family.
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I was verbally and physically abuse and troll on the internet by my family.

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