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DodgersMom 07-14-2017 06:26 PM

possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
is it possible to have experienced childhood/teen sexual abuse but have no memory of it?

i feel like i'd say, no i have never, because i don't remember but i was reading a few things on it and a lot of the symptoms ppl talk about were very much me and as an adult i struggle with issues touching and being touch, the idea of sex terrifies me and i can't be in relationships

i am just wondering if i am nuts or if i am forgetting something major somehow? seems weird i would not remember

one key thing is i remember being about 10 or so and constantly playing barbies so i could do sexual things with them, not me and them but using them together in a sexual way. i always was touching myself etc, i remember those things... i am freaking out. help!

topherlee75 07-14-2017 08:24 PM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
I kind of go thru the same thing. In third grade, I knew waaaaay too much about sex. There were weird things I knew about what others had no clue what I was talking about. Sensations I knew about that I shouldn't have... and I have no recollection of my 2nd grade year at all.

So.

I have come to the conclusion it's possible and deal with it that way. Personally, I don't want to know. I'd rather know it's possible and just deal with it "as if it did" and it's been a little better.

Luminar12010 07-17-2017 09:53 AM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
these kind of problems can be there for countless reasons, or for no reason that can ever be identified. treating them is probably the same regardless, see a therapist who can help you deal with them, but i dont honestly think you could stretch to attaching it to abuse that you cant remember, that would do you more harm than good

rmvgcarreiro 07-18-2017 10:41 AM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
I think you can. I was raped by my brother for more than 5years and it started well, when I was 5. I do remember it, but I don't remember many stuff from my childhood and teen years, it might be reverse from your case, but the events and our mind block some stuff out

systemfailure 07-27-2017 11:09 AM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
I think unless you remember being abused, your better to count it out, unless you do get memories, the problem with MI is a lot of the symptoms are the same as many other diagnoses.

systemfailure 07-27-2017 11:13 AM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
as for you dealing with it as if it did happen, your not going to find the real root of your problems, if you decide that it did happen, furthermore, who are you going to decide who abused you ? because surely that would be the next concern if you think you may have been abused, you need to talk to a specialist because the fact you feel better deciding to treat it as if you were abused with no recollection of abuse, is an issue in entire itself.

DodgersMom 07-29-2017 06:36 PM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
i wouldn't accuse anyone specifically. i dont even need to/want to know for sure if anything happened

I'm just trying to see if its possible... i know i have massive issues with touch and I'm trying to figure ut where it all comes from

GoneGirl711 09-15-2017 09:25 AM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
I have several years of my childhood in which I can recall very little. I think age 8 - 10 or 11.

I do have recollection of being molested but as an adult I have had strange memory flashes? When I have again seen some relatives or family friends I had not seen in years and they have been very disturbing quick flashes and I have struggled with if they are real memories or if they are merely a trigger of that memory or were involved. It so disturbing ,

RubyRae 09-15-2017 12:29 PM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
I personally believe when you've been sexually abused in childhood you just "know" you have been,you may not remember the acts,you may not remember who or how but inside,deep inside your soul you have this 'knowing'.

RubyRae 09-15-2017 03:55 PM

Re: possibly sexually abused but can't recall?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by systemfailure (Post 5754305)
I think unless you remember being abused, your better to count it out, unless you do get memories, the problem with MI is a lot of the symptoms are the same as many other diagnoses.

Good post,especially saying a lot of symptoms are the same as many other diagnoses.I agree with that and I think it's kind of dangerous to read a checklist about sexual abuse symptoms and assume one was abused because some symptoms match.


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