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Old 10-28-2018, 05:41 PM   #1
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I feel really weird sometimes.

Iím constantly worrying about being ďboringĒ and not standing out. I feel like I need everyone to like me and I feel like the level of attention they give me is a reflection of how much they like me, and subsequently, how much Iím worth or valued as a person.

How do I stop worrying about how much attention Iím getting? How do I stop worrying if people like me or not? Iím desperate to just be myself and not worry, but Iím always trying to shape myself into being a different person so I stand out more.

Iím worried Iím a proper boring person !

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Old 10-29-2018, 03:05 AM   #2
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I'd say perhaps you suffer from self-esteem issues. Do you think that is correct? Do you have a therapist?
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I'd say perhaps you suffer from self-esteem issues. Do you think that is correct? Do you have a therapist?


I do I think I just finished therapy a few weeks ago. It was a pretty abrupt finish as we only get so many sessions (Iím in the UK). I do feel a bit better but feel like I needed a lot longer to sort these self esteem issues out.
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I'm sorry to hear that Perhaps you could read some books on the subject?
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Not that I dress outlandishly but I definitely have my own style that stands out - starting with some pretty funky hair. The more manic I am the more defined this is. Usually it is in the granola-eating theme.

The ironic thing is that I do have a self-esteem problem and am always concerned about what people think of me and my appearance. I guess that dressing the way I do is a way of trying to control that. If I figure I am going to stand out anyway, I might as well be in charge of that. I dunno if this will make sense to anyone but me.

One thing though is that I am bipolar and the my hypo/manic I get the more 'out there' becomes my appearance.
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Standing out from the herd is a natural instinctive danger for herd animals, of which we all are to some extent.
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