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Unread 03-24-2017, 10:12 PM   #1
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Where does self-worth come from?
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Unread 03-24-2017, 10:28 PM   #2
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Affirmations and confirmations from others can certainly help make a difference, but maintaining a clear conscience before our Maker is the biggest thing that makes the biggest difference for me.
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my worth and value comes from what God says about me in the Bible. He says I am fearfully and wonderfully made,that I was put hee for a reason. that He loves me, that He made me, that He thinks about me. i dont compare myself to others, nor do i worry about what other people think lf me.
People can think whatever they want. I know what God says about me. Thats where my worth and value comes from.
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As a non-religious person, this question is a little difficult for me to answer.

Some people do get the sense of worth from whatever religion they subscribe to, and I respect that.

I, however, don't believe in a traditional God. I am not atheist or agnostic. I am spiritual and have a belief of my own that I do adhere to, but I don't gather my worth as a person from that belief.

I hold to the fact that every person is born with the same amount of worth as any other person. Our actions as human beings do not add to or take away from that worth.

I am no more worthy than a drug addiction begging for money on the corner and no less worthy than the billionaire donating millions to feed the hungry. We are all worthy.

Put a man in front of me, and tell me he seriously hurt someone. Does he deserve to be punished? Yes. Does it make him any less worthy of life? No.

I do, still, have days where I feel less than other people, less worthy... even though I feel less worthy, my worth has not changed. My perception of it has.
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To me, I believe it comes from where the desire of your true heart is rooted in.

Sometimes, maybe, it's not understood until a shattering is realized and you understand what your self worth really is to you.
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Affirmations and confirmations from others can certainly help make a difference, but maintaining a clear conscience before our Maker is the biggest thing that makes the biggest difference for me.
What man has a clear conscience before his Maker?
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Good question. My thoughts on what increases self-worth:

* Living up to your own values
* Managing yourself well - not too impulsive, not too inhibited
* Quality connections with other people (i.e., you are not socially isolated, you treat them well, and they are supportive and friendly)
* Encouraging feedback from other people (frequent criticism, rejection, being "micromanaged", or outright ostracism feels terrible for anyone and seems to be a major component in low self-worth)
* Being assertive (rather than passive, passive-aggressive, or aggressive)
* Having control over your life
* Learning and using skills that you intrinsically enjoy - that builds a sense of competency

I think that if we have gone through too many periods where we don't have enough of these things in place, it can leave a long term mark on us. I suspect that self-worth and self-confidence are somehow connected in ways I can't fully define (this is because I have tried working on one, and find to my surprise the other can also be affected).

A nasty problem is, when self-worth is low we tend to NOT do all the things necessary to increase self-worth. Same problem exists with self-confidence. I have no idea why this is so.
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Referring to a post above, religion has absolutely no part in it. I am responsible for my own sense of self. It doesn't just happen.

My self worth has grown stronger through my CBT. I have learnt to challenge those negative automatic thoughts that tended to berate myself relentlessly. It has been a lot of hard work but it has paid off.
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What man has a clear conscience before his Maker?
The one who does not claim righteousness either of or from within himself.

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"God often goes to the gutter to find the recipient for His grace. He lifts him out, washes him and transforms him - making him into a child of God fit for His kingdom. That is God's grace." --Chuck Smith
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I have no idea where my self worth comes from, but I know it has fluctuated in value thru my entire life.
I know I use a mirror & try to see my worth in others & how I'm reflected....then sorely disappointed.
Some find it in religion, but mine keeps changing. Some find it in values & mine keep changing too. Everything in my life now seems very fluid & constantly evolving as I guess my worth is too. It can change daily.
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