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Old 04-17-2017, 10:09 AM   #1
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Social anxiety has been a big problem for me all my life. Crowds and big groups have never been really comfortable. Fortunately I have found ways around it, but it still can be troublesome.

Thanks to Psych Central I have found ways of skirting my social anxieties by talking to people online.

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Well... I don't know if I have social anxiety. Perhaps I do. I take our dog out for long walks in the neighborhood every day. But I've always hated crowds. Years ago when I would be out in public, for example at a shopping mall, I'd become increasingly uncomfortable sometimes to the point where I would begin to feel dizzy & disoriented if I remained in the situation long enough. I always just kept what was going on with me to myself & toughed it out. And I'd have to say this has gotten better as I've gotten older. However, I still avoid any kind of crowd... like the plague! And I pretty-much just keep to myself in general. I seldom go anywhere unless it's necessary. I've also always been extremely glossophobic. Thankfully I no longer have occasion to do any public speaking! But in general I'd have to say that, at this point in my life, I don't not go out due to anxiety. I just really have no use for people in general in real life & I prefer to keep my own company...
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Social anxiety has been a big problem for me all my life. Crowds and big groups have never been really comfortable. Fortunately I have found ways around it, but it still can be troublesome.

Thanks to Psych Central I have found ways of skirting my social anxieties by talking to people online.

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My experience with social anxiety is crippling my life. I have severe anxiety, panic disorder, agoraphobia, bipolar, chronic depression, and sleep disorders. I used to be a normal functioning person who worked from the time I was in high school until my last job at 36. I am now 45, and I stay in my home unless it is absolutely necessary I have to go out. When I do have an appointment or something, my husband has to go with me and drive. It is difficult for me to drive anymore without being overcome with anxiety and almost having a panic attack. My husband does all the errands that require being in public after he gets off work, like going to the grocery store and picking up my medications. I rarely even go out to see my parents who only live about 100 yards away. I feel really anxious just going out the front of my home to get my daughter off the school bus in the evenings. I can't even think of working or finding a job. I tried to substitute teach and almost had a panic attack when I got a call. So I just avoided all calls and never signed up to sub again. I am on medication for anxiety, bipolar depression, and sleep problems. The meds only get me through the day, but they are not enough to get me out of the house or in public. I dread my appointments so much. I feel so alone. Has anyone ever experienced anxiety this bad?
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Hello, I've gone through the same social issues. i currently have no friends outside my family because i feel really afraid to make some and i am in college not getting the full college experience (well community college). Anyway, i just wish i wasn't so afraid, i know i can be a good friend and all but just taking that step to actually speaking to someone is where i struggle. it might be that i'm a little critical of myself and afraid that those i approach might not find me interesting enough to want to actually develop a friendship with me because i can be a little different at times, a mindset i believe my mental issues have contributed to. but yes. that is my social anxiety story. oh, i also am really uncomfortable going out to public places, the whole i think i'm the center of the world thing and everyone is judging me is what makes me feel really uneasy.
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Had to quit my job because of panic attacks and social anxiety. Had a traumatic experience due to workplace bullying. I once was a very outgoing, social person. The awful experience changed me. Would like to volunteer but my fear of people prevents it. I've lost trust in the human race. I'm getting help and sisters are supportive. I live alone with my pets. My husband died 24 years ago. Have huge problems in crowds and around people I don't know. Even avoid my neighbors in neighborhood where I have lived almost 50 years. Wish I could be the person I once was. Glad I can express myself on this forum.
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I was horribly socially anxious as a child. Even something small, such as passing a paper back, required vast mental preparation and the only reason I could do that was because there was no communication involved. So bothered was I, that I had difficulty turning in my papers. I recall an instance in which a teacher-whom I seemed to particularly annoy for whatever reason-scolded me for taking too long on a worksheet. "You've had plenty of time, why aren't you finished?" I was finished. I had been finished for quite some time. I just couldn't turn in the paper-to walk up to the teacher and say "here you go" was absolutely terrifying. It wasn't until I got my first job at 17 that the anxiety got better, out of necessity, really. I notice my anxiety manifest itself differently now. Instead of being terrified all of the time, I have days where I can socialize, and days where I can't function in public at all. So, the anxiety appears at half the time with twice as much potency.
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Hi all! Awesome that we have a new forum. I have a dx of social anxiety along with GAD and bipolar with psychotic features----just one more thing right? Maybe not....when I was in jr high I really wouldn't speak----people my age would say hello and I would just look at them but if a teacher called on me I would answer because I'd get into trouble if I didn't and that would be more talking. I'd like to say I grew out of it but it was more like after a lot of work I improved. I had a guidance counselor who pulled me out of class one day for you guessed it not talking---I thought it was so ironic. Most students get in trouble for talking in class. Anyway he told me I had two choices either to join some activities at the school or to continue to see him periodically. I didn't want to talk so I joined two clubs---I knew they were monitoring me though----perhaps part of this was paranoia but really school officials have a lot of power and can certainly check up on you so I started very slowly talking to people and after a lot of sweating and anxiety I had a few friends. The school left me alone after this but still I never dated until my late 30s so I wasn't totally normal. I got cbt for my psychosis but a lot of it dealt with anxiety because it was hand tailored to me. So I started dating and right now I've been with my current bf for a year----amazingly he is a huge anxiety reducer---going places with people where you won't be the only one talking is awesome----I can talk if I want but don't feel like all the pressure is on me. He is naturally social so it doesn't magnify the pressure like some people do. I still get nervous when I'm in charge of things like if I bought the tickets or whatever but its such a relief and worth working towards. I'm not anxiety free but I don't react with the same levels of stress anymore.
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Social anxiety has been a big problem for me all my life. Crowds and big groups have never been really comfortable. Fortunately I have found ways around it, but it still can be troublesome.

Thanks to Psych Central I have found ways of skirting my social anxieties by talking to people online.

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Is it just me but I have like zero issues talking to people online and its always been that way but put a person in front of me and the butterflies start.
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My experience with social anxiety is crippling my life. I have severe anxiety, panic disorder, agoraphobia, bipolar, chronic depression, and sleep disorders. I used to be a normal functioning person who worked from the time I was in high school until my last job at 36. I am now 45, and I stay in my home unless it is absolutely necessary I have to go out. When I do have an appointment or something, my husband has to go with me and drive. It is difficult for me to drive anymore without being overcome with anxiety and almost having a panic attack. My husband does all the errands that require being in public after he gets off work, like going to the grocery store and picking up my medications. I rarely even go out to see my parents who only live about 100 yards away. I feel really anxious just going out the front of my home to get my daughter off the school bus in the evenings. I can't even think of working or finding a job. I tried to substitute teach and almost had a panic attack when I got a call. So I just avoided all calls and never signed up to sub again. I am on medication for anxiety, bipolar depression, and sleep problems. The meds only get me through the day, but they are not enough to get me out of the house or in public. I dread my appointments so much. I feel so alone. Has anyone ever experienced anxiety this bad?
My anxiety was never quite that bad but I found cbt therapy to be effective---you still feel the nerves a bit but its easier to push past and my T taught me breathing techniques to deal with the panic attacks---have you tried therapy?
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