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Old 09-16-2018, 01:52 PM   #1
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Not sure where to ask about this, so if it's in the wrong section, my bad. So for a very long time, since I was a child, I've had dreams that are different in detail, but maintain the same theme of being betrayed or abandoned. The feeling caused by these dreams is very intense. The most recent was last night with a dream about being with a girl who then, for unknown reasons began getting with another guy and the interesting part was that there was no attempt to hide this, either from her or the guy. I do remember strong feeling of confusion and then the confusion causing me to think about the situation much more critically, which caused me to start lucid dreaming, upon which when noticing I was dreaming, I woke up as is always the case with me when I realize I'm dreaming. I've never quite figured out how people stay in their dreams once they realize they are dreaming. Before realizing I was dreaming however, that intense feeling of abandonment/betrayal hit like a truck and as a result I can remember it quite clearly now. It's as if you took 60% sadness, 20% anger, and 20% shame, and then put them in a box made of confusion.

So my question here is, why does this seem to occur on almost a regular basis, happening multiple times a month? And how do I square myself with my subconscious that seems to be unable to get passed these feelings and made up scenarios?

If more information is needed, simply let me know. Thank you.
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From what you wrote, it doesn't sound as though these dreams really qualify as nightmares. However here are links to 5 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of some help with regard to figuring out what these dreams are all about; 3 on the subject of nightmares plus 2 on the subject of dream interpretation in general:

More Than a Dream: The Science Behind Nightmares | Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

How to Eliminate Recurring Nightmares

The meaning of your nightmares | Unleash Your Creativity

How to Analyze Your Dreams (And Why It's Important)

Interpret Your Own Dreams - Some Guidelines | Healing Together for Couples
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Not sure where to ask about this, so if it's in the wrong section, my bad. So for a very long time, since I was a child, I've had dreams that are different in detail, but maintain the same theme of being betrayed or abandoned. The feeling caused by these dreams is very intense. The most recent was last night with a dream about being with a girl who then, for unknown reasons began getting with another guy and the interesting part was that there was no attempt to hide this, either from her or the guy. I do remember strong feeling of confusion and then the confusion causing me to think about the situation much more critically, which caused me to start lucid dreaming, upon which when noticing I was dreaming, I woke up as is always the case with me when I realize I'm dreaming. I've never quite figured out how people stay in their dreams once they realize they are dreaming. Before realizing I was dreaming however, that intense feeling of abandonment/betrayal hit like a truck and as a result I can remember it quite clearly now. It's as if you took 60% sadness, 20% anger, and 20% shame, and then put them in a box made of confusion.

So my question here is, why does this seem to occur on almost a regular basis, happening multiple times a month? And how do I square myself with my subconscious that seems to be unable to get passed these feelings and made up scenarios?

If more information is needed, simply let me know. Thank you.
On the surface, dreams about feeling rejected and abandoned represent your feelings of being neglected or overlooked by people in your life, whether past or present.

It can also be a dream about something you attempted to succeed at but failed. It can also be a dream about what you think your self-worth or self-esteem level is, or attitudes you have towards yourself, or expectations you have about how relationships with people should be: open, honest, respectful communication but in your dream that's not what you were given.

If you have recurring dreams about being abandoned, it could also be tied to issues from your childhood where you felt neglected or emotionally abandoned by parents or guardians or close friends.
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When I was with my ex for five years, I had these dreams a lot where he would be leaving me or cheating on me, and I felt neglected and sad when I'd wake up. I was never fully content or felt loved in that relationship, and I guess subconsciously I was afraid of what was coming.

Do you have anything like this going on in your life that is making you feel like you could be abandoned at any given time, leaving you feel helpless?
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Your mind is processing a real life situation you are in, and how you are feeling about it.
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