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Unread 08-03-2017, 10:03 AM   #11
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What I mean is, this place offers facilities, but it's not supposed to be like a prison where the person is owned and only gets to see people based on the discretion of who is in charge. That is just ridiculous. To cap it off, she's not even British, so it almost feels like it's equal to those pimps who rule over sex workers.
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Unread 08-03-2017, 06:10 PM   #12
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I think your painting this world you obviously are not well versed in, with very broad strokes.
If I go into a Catholic Church, bless myself, go to mass, take communion & bless myself on the way out....that doesn't make me a catholic.
But you seem to have all the answers & everyone is treating YOU badly. Are they really? Sounds about right from the vanilla world.
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Sorry, I didn't understand a word of a what you said. I'm not religious and I don't go to church. My mate isn't a believer either; I get jokes from him about Jesus, not that they are funny, but the dude finds anything funny for some reason.
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It sounds like you casually walked into a dungeon (by yourself?) using porn as your knowledge base.
I can't just walk into a church & call myself a catholic. That's the example I was making. You could substitute anything really.
You also use Mistress & Dominatrix in the same sentence.
They're NOT the same!

You call "these women" sadists. Wow, there's that broad brush I was talking about.
Then you call the woman a tart!

WTF!
Sorry I would've blacklisted you too.
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Yeah. Whatever.
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That's kind of the mentality I was expecting lol.
If you're interested in bdsm I suggest doing some serious research, reading & maybe a local munch to start.
Going to a dungeon is like diving into a pool & not knowing how to swim.
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I afraid Patagonia is correct here.
It sounds like you have walked into something you think you understand. But have only experienced through porn.
I have a really good link explaining they D/s relationship without going into it too
technically.
The Mistress of an establishment, online or otherwise is there to protect her clients, that's why you have found yourself blacklisted.
As you seem to have shown a profound mis understanding of the basic etiquette of the social circle you have entered.

As a 'collared' sub, I can assure you we see enough of your type of if you mis understanding to last lifetimes, but I am always willing to provide educational source material for those who seek to educate themselves.
For example just because I am a sub doesn't mean I am open to all and any sexual advances, nor does it mean I am there to take abuse from anyone who fancies a turn.
Every sub is as different as each Dom, and requires very specific and individual care.
And that by the way is the role of a Dom, to be responsible for the physical and emotional well being of his sub. Not to use as a lashing post for his own frustrations.
Perhaps you should assess your needs, what your looking for and what you expect.
If require short and concise intro into the relationship between a Dom and their sub I would be more than happy to provide a link.
Otherwise do take the time to investigate further if you feel so inclined.
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"a Dom, to be responsible for the physical and emotional well being of his sub. Not to use as a lashing post for his own frustrations."

A Dom sounds great, better than a husband!
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"a Dom, to be responsible for the physical and emotional well being of his sub. Not to use as a lashing post for his own frustrations."

A Dom sounds great, better than a husband!
Lol, when you get it right, they often are.
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