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Old 03-06-2019, 11:24 AM   #11
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Society and people and religion has made sex "taboo" dirty sinful and unclean. Along with lots of filthy names getting called. Too many partners? Labeled. Too few partners? Labeled. Kink or fetish? Labeled. I dunno about other people but I wasn't raised to know what was going on. I had to figure everything out on my own. My sister is 8 years older than me so not close, no valuable connection when growing up. When I got my period I was a bit shocked but knew how to handle it and told my mom to go buy me tampons. She came back with these giant pads. I was like no. Wrong. I lost my virginity at a very young age but practice caution, used birth control and got myself on the shot as soon as I could. No help from mom or family. Years in small town church ingrained that premarital sex was gonna send me to hell. Mom was going to hell. Everyone literally was going to hell. I left when I got old enough to form my own opinions. Sex and relationships and views are different for everyone to figure out and unlearning what you're taught is hard...
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Old 03-06-2019, 11:47 AM   #12
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Society and people and religion has made sex "taboo" dirty sinful and unclean. Along with lots of filthy names getting called. Too many partners? Labeled. Too few partners? Labeled. Kink or fetish? Labeled. I dunno about other people but I wasn't raised to know what was going on. I had to figure everything out on my own. My sister is 8 years older than me so not close, no valuable connection when growing up. When I got my period I was a bit shocked but knew how to handle it and told my mom to go buy me tampons. She came back with these giant pads. I was like no. Wrong. I lost my virginity at a very young age but practice caution, used birth control and got myself on the shot as soon as I could. No help from mom or family. Years in small town church ingrained that premarital sex was gonna send me to hell. Mom was going to hell. Everyone literally was going to hell. I left when I got old enough to form my own opinions. Sex and relationships and views are different for everyone to figure out and unlearning what you're taught is hard...
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Old 03-06-2019, 05:01 PM   #13
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Another day down and after listening to what my wife needed in the bedroom for her to release her tension I did what she wanted plus a little more and all without the penetration
So sex talk is way more than using the nice pleasantries to get someone to take their clothes off.
Just listening and knowing what the other person wants/needs can only be done by talking to the opposite sex.
If more people used their language skills instead of guessing what is expected of them life would be much easier.
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Another day down and after listening to what my wife needed in the bedroom for her to release her tension I did what she wanted plus a little more and all without the penetration
So sex talk is way more than using the nice pleasantries to get someone to take their clothes off.
Just listening and knowing what the other person wants/needs can only be done by talking to the opposite sex.
If more people used their language skills instead of guessing what is expected of them life would be much easier.

Glad you and your wife are able to connect, Daggy. Your points about communication are well made!
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Why is sex such a challenge to talk about?
Because the answer is as large and complicated as the many positions you can find to have physical relations.
And then there are two different main sexes. Not to count all the variations.
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Why is sex such a challenge to talk about?
Because the answer is as large and complicated as the many positions you can find to have physical relations.
And then there are two different main sexes. Not to count all the variations.
Actually, it's because the word is so hard to define.
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