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Old 04-25-2018, 04:42 PM   #1
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Okay, so if you are absolutely anti-porn and don't watch it, think it's vile, whatever, please just don't respond. This isn't that kind of a question.

So, I don't really know what any kind of average is, but I feel like I watch a significant amount of porn. I'm not in a relationship, but I do enjoy masturbating. And sometimes I'll turn on some porn to watch while I do so. I use porn, maybe 4 out of 7 days a week.

I'm not ashamed of this. Nor am I addicted. I don't need porn. If you took it away forever I wouldn't cry. I enjoy it, but it's not necessary. I have a plenty active imagination and plenty of sexual experience to get the job done myself.

But I feel like, I dunno, if a partner found out I watched this much porn that he might be turned off by it? I just see so many things lately from people who are so anti-porn...I don't necessarily want to do the things in the porn either, I like to watch.

I have watched porn with partners and I enjoy that too.

I guess my question is, for those of you who watch porn and are also sexually active, how much do you watch, how often?

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well if you were to find someone that is turned off by it, unless for some reason they were in every other way perfect it would be kind of a sign that there would be trouble down the road. Just need to find people that aren't so opposed to it.


Me, shoot, I watch it, and pretty much use it same as you and go further in the sense that some of the art I do is quite erotic though kind of stops short of being hard core. so I personally have no issues with it though within that realm I do have limits as to what I find acceptable.. but that's a subject for a nother thread.
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About the same as you, but I'm not sexually active at the moment, although I wish I was sometimes and get very lonely I also struggle enormously with physical and sexual contact, plus I'm very bad at forming or sustaining relationships and scared of going out socially so all in all porn is the safest option for me. Even then I experience a lot of guilt, not from a prudish POV, it's just I do tend to agree with some of the arguments about how porn can be abusive, honestly I think a lot is very misogynistic towards women and I really love women and hate misogyny so I do try to find stuff that is pro women or even feminist but that's not always easy.
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About the same as you, but I'm not sexually active at the moment, although I wish I was sometimes and get very lonely I also struggle enormously with physical and sexual contact, plus I'm very bad at forming or sustaining relationships and scared of going out socially so all in all porn is the safest option for me. Even then I experience a lot of guilt, not from a prudish POV, it's just I do tend to agree with some of the arguments about how porn can be abusive, honestly I think a lot is very misogynistic towards women and I really love women and hate misogyny so I do try to find stuff that is pro women or even feminist but that's not always easy.
Okay, well, let's veer away from discussing content. Because I do agree that a lot of porn can be abusive towards women. But some porn is produced by women for women..that's a whole different discussion. So let's steer away from content discussions. Although I'd be happy to discuss that in another thread. I have a lot of conflicting feelings about the content.

Thanks though for your honesty and willngness to share!

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But I feel like, I dunno, if a partner found out I watched this much porn that he might be turned off by it? I just see so many things lately from people who are so anti-porn...I don't necessarily want to do the things in the porn either, I like to watch.
I think they would. I am not sexually active at the moment but I sometimes hang out on those adult chats and if I bring it up like it is sexy, it is a total turn off to guys. As is any talk of you pleasuring yourself. They want to hear how big their member is, that is all.

I think a lot of people would be surprised I watch porn. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I think like most women a little goes a long way some stuff is just physically gross to me.

You must be from the south because up here in Northeast there no one is really anti-porn. We are too busy dealing with secret sex cults.
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I think they would. I am not sexually active at the moment but I sometimes hang out on those adult chats and if I bring it up like it is sexy, it is a total turn off to guys. As is any talk of you pleasuring yourself.
They must be weird, that sort of thing would turn me on more.
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I think they would. I am not sexually active at the moment but I sometimes hang out on those adult chats and if I bring it up like it is sexy, it is a total turn off to guys. As is any talk of you pleasuring yourself. They want to hear how big their member is, that is all.

I think a lot of people would be surprised I watch porn. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I think like most women a little goes a long way some stuff is just physically gross to me.

You must be from the south because up here in Northeast there no one is really anti-porn. We are too busy dealing with secret sex cults.
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Ugh, bringing up porn to a guy is like shaking a bottle of catnip in front of your cat. Guys might just not be into the same kind of porn is all, and what you may like might bore them.

I watched porn with a girlfriend before and found it exhilarating, especially to find out what exactly her kink was. It was cool. I liked it so much because i was getting inside her head, so i understood her to a greater degree which was even more of a turn on.

PS: Midwestern here, but I live near college towns, so it's very liberal. One of my friends has a swinger relationship. I don't understand that.
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Alright I am pro porn and love it. Super hot. I do have sex and I do watch porn but I don't have an average of how often. It varies depending on how I'm feeling.

Why would you even care what a future man thinks? Like anything some guys will find it hot and some will find it to be a turn off. Cross that bridge when you get there. Otherwise? Play on.
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I don't get aniti-porn rhetoric. The only way I'd ever be against it is if the persons involved in the filming, aka the actors, were not consenting about it. I'm not talking about rape fantasy porn, that's just another genre in the industry.

I'm talking about the treatment of the actress primarily. I know they are being paid to preform a certain series of tasks/acts, and sometimes a certain actress is in high demand for a certain genre or genres.

I'm moreso delving into the deep seedy underbelly of the porn industry and all that it entails. I'll not get into specifics, because I don't want to trigger anyone, but I'll just say that sex trafficking involves a lot of porn making.

Back to the topic on hand though, as I feel I'm derailing this thread now....I watch porn about 2-4 times a week. It's more often 2 than 4. I used to have more of a libido, but it's kind of mellowed out a tiny bit. I blame the anti-depressants for that.

As for what my boyfriend thinks about me watching it, he's okay with it. Of course, we've been long distance for a while so it's sort of a necessary thing, and I find sharing our favorite genre specific porn brings us closer together as a couple. I'd love to watch porn with him in person, I think that would be extremely hot. We could find a porn we both like and try and act out the scenes together!

Besides, it could be a huge motivating factor for him because he's a complete "has not held hands with a girl yet" virgin, and this might give him confidence, relax him and help to set the mood. I've also heard it gives men a sort of competitive drive when they see porn and are having sex, like they need to prove they are more of a man than the male porn star and get their partner to climax faster or something.

Then again, it depends on the guy I suppose. For some it might just make them feel inferior to see a male porn star's "equipment" when comparing it to their own.
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