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Default Guys have you ever faked an orgasm?

Sorry but not posting this in the men forum as it says 'men only' which I don't agree with - women feel free to offer your perspective too even if the question itself is to guys.

When I was married I had big problems with sharing a bed because I tend to startle easily when touched, and this not only made it hard to sleep but occasionally I would instinctively push my partner away, especially if I was half asleep when it happened. Over time I also found myself getting more closed down sexually and didn't want to be touched or have sex, but sometimes if I was asleep I would find myself waking and having sex without having initiated, apparently because I responded physically to my wife's touch while asleep enough to get aroused (possibly I was having an erotic dream too?) and I guess she 'climbed on' thinking I was present when I wasn't - but then when I woke up and sort of found myself there my instinct was to want to push her off because I didn't really want it and it was quite scary actually but I couldn't do that without hurting her so just went along with it but since I wasn't into it really I would fake coming to bring things to an end on my part without making her feel bad, or sometimes then focus on helping her come too if that was still needed.

I always thought that this was pretty rare for guys but I have read recently that it's more common than was thought and that it's a bit of a myth that guys can't fake orgasms because of the link between orgasm and ejaculation but actually that is not the case.

btw this is one reason why I don't like to sleep regularly with women as I get afraid of sharing a bed and these things happening again (even though paradoxically I do miss the intimacy of sex on an emotional level but I need it to be very carefully paced and a lot of people don't know how to do that).
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This is really interesting. Iíll have to ask my husband if heís ever faked an orgasm. Iíve never done it with him though. If Iím not getting ďthereĒ I just say so. I guess I feel like thereís no point in lying 🤷🏻*♀️ sometimes ya just canít go for whatever reason. Itís nobodyís fault. Just the way human bodies sometimes work.
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I asked my husband and he said he didn't know men could fake it. Shrug. I know I have faked it before I was married. Trying to make guys feel better about themselves.
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I asked my husband and he said he didn't know men could fake it. Shrug. I know I have faked it before I was married. Trying to make guys feel better about themselves.
Um, yeah, me too, like, before I was married. Then after.

Pretty much for the same reason - tryiní to make girls feel better about themselves.

Okay. First time at 19 or 20 and I meet this French girl in a pub. I was with a group and she was tragically alone and punk and pretty. When the closing bell rang we went back to my flat to, ostensibly, smoke some weed and these were the years way, way before HIV/AIDS but when every woman was on the Pill and we (meaning Ďwe mení) didnít keep condoms on hand but expected girls to, like I said, be on the Pill.

I cannot recall this girlís name to save the Popeís life (no, I am not harboring the Pope) but she fell into one of my four Ďtypesí and I was not an underarm hair novice but, my god, the odor of decaying corpses hit me and I realized that the French are not as concerned about hygiene as we American ex-pats. I soldiered on, though, and faked an orgasm. Some men spend copiously and some do not and I think that she bought my fake orgasm.

When I was 39 I met a woman, Karen, during my first trip to a lavish - mint on the pillow lavish - private mental health facility. Karen was also 39. You may or may not realize how the most attractive and interesting two people in a crowd dance toward one another? Even if you are both coupled, youíre drawn to the other. Itís like some effed-up magic.

In retrospect I can say that hooking up in a mental health facility isnít, um, smart. My real girlfriend (who I found on Facebook! Back when I looked at Facebook!) was 19-20 at that time and the oldest person that I had slept with would have been my ex-wife, at 32. I had no sexual experiences with women of my own age. But Karen was really attractive - for 39 - and looked to be as fit as one can look in lounging clothes.

So, itís our third night together and she comes to my room (long story) and we start making out, etc., and Iím a Ďlights oní person and I see, for the first time, the sagging and patterned and leathered breasts of an old woman. Jeez. Even the skin on her inner thighs sagged. Clothed, she looked the part of Someoneís Nordic Mistress. She had some really nice junk (what are women calling their junk these days?) and I was able to serve my country but I could not then or forevermore come for Karen. Maybe faked it one dozen times?

Yes. I have faked an orgasm 13 times (close enough). In 10 trysts, not 13 during one sitting.
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For me it was more just wanting to get it over with in a way that didn't hurt my wife's feelings.
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For me it was more just wanting to get it over with in a way that didn't hurt my wife's feelings.
You faked an orgasm with your wife???

I must have missed that in your original message.

No, no, no. In the time between meeting my wife and marriage we engaged in intercourse hundreds of times. Hundreds and hundreds. She would have known - absolutely and with forensic surety - had I attempted to fake an orgasm with her.

Um, I donít think that I could have faked an orgasm with any, uh, thrice-laid women. The whole copious load thing and all.

As males I believe that we assume that we could spot a womanís fake orgasm. Even after that Meg Ryan diner scene in whatever film. Iím certain that I have been victimized by womenís faked orgasms. The odds favor it.

I would still like to know the current term for womenís junk. My partner and I use the same terms that we used in high school. We are so very Ď70ís.
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Default Re: Guys have you ever faked an orgasm?

It rarely happened to me that I wasn't able to come. And when it happened, well, so what. How *can* you even fake it when there is no sperm around?
I know women aren't happy about it, but hey, if you come 99 times out of 100, then she shouldn't have any doubts of her attractiveness.
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This is a myth, itís not at all difficult to fake if you are using condoms for example (who checks inside them?). Plus most men produce some ejaculate as they go along, and so do women of course, so there is usually something fluid there. Also ejaculation and orgasm in men are not quite as connected as people think, you can have one without the other.
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itís not at all difficult to fake if you are using condoms for example (who checks inside them?)
I do. Always. It's a common routine for me afterwards to squeeze the tip of the condom to see if it is intact. My woman expects me to do that since she has a vital interest in there, too ....

And when I peel off the condom and the tip of my penis is bone dry ... let's say, if she is paying attention she would most likely notice.

But anyway, if I never or only rarely come, then I (or we) have a problem that needs to be discussed or handled. If it only happens once in a while, the'll have to accept it. Just like people aren't just always in the mood.
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Never faked an orgasm. Never even considered it. I'm so used to the messiness of an ejaculation that I couldn't even try to fake an orgasm off with a straight face.
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