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Old 12-10-2017, 11:20 PM   #1
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I am in a long distance relationship with my BF. We haven't yet video chatted. I just brought it up tonight, and we agreed to do it for the first time later today (we both have extreme social anxiety so we've only chatted with audio and/or the texting feature on Skype).

I've always had this....fantasy I suppose, about doing something of a sexual nature with a guy online and now I feel I can live through doing that with my BF. I just don't know how to go about it. I'm insanely curious about his body and want to see as much of it as I can.

I just don't know how to go about setting up such a session. Not only do I feel shy, so does he. I've sent him pictures of myself in my skirtini (bikini with a miniskirt like bottom) and he's sent me pics of himself without his shirt on, but that's as much as we've shown each other.

I want to see more, and send him more revealing pics, but don't know how he'd feel about that yet.

What should I do?
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Old 12-11-2017, 01:38 PM   #2
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Did you video chat? How did it go?

I think the easiest way to approach this subject is just to talk to him about it. Tell him how much you want to see him and show him. Take your time and have fun with it. Just be safe. Make sure you are 100% comfortable with him and trust him. :-)
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We were both really nervous. He showed me his living area (he and his family share a flat in Budapest with a couple of different rooms so it's sort of crowded with little privacy). The conversation was awkward and different than typing out words on a screen. We tried doing some gaming online together, but it failed miserably because my laptop can't really handle it well. I so need a new one.

In the end we went sort of quiet and then he said he needed to end the call because he was getting exhausted.
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We were both really nervous. He showed me his living area (he and his family share a flat in Budapest with a couple of different rooms so it's sort of crowded with little privacy). The conversation was awkward and different than typing out words on a screen. We tried doing some gaming online together, but it failed miserably because my laptop can't really handle it well. I so need a new one.

In the end we went sort of quiet and then he said he needed to end the call because he was getting exhausted.
The first time was bound to be awkward, but it only gets better from here right!
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Yup! It does, hopefully!
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Iím hoping that anything you send afa pics are wiped down of information & youíre protecting yourself & the technology footprint that youíre leaving behind for others. Just an FYI.
If youíve seen his chest does that include his face? Like a body pic? Iím sure privacy is most important here for you both.
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