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(1) Life is about creating your own personal boundaries while negatively impacting other people as little as HUMANLY possible. If you feel guilty it might be your brains way of telling you that you are using porn too often and it wants you to lessen the stimulation load you are putting on it. (2)Baby steps are the key to removing or lessening anything in your life that you spent allot of time placing there in the first place. For example if you watch porn daily try to do it every other day, if it gets unbearable you can masturbate to relieve yourself. When you feel confident increase the time between use. (3)Come to terms with your expectations of your self vs your expectations of others. If you look down on people who use porn than by all rights judge your self with the same ruling. If you don’t than have some compassion for your self. (4)That “poor girl/guy in the video” has made their own boundaries. You are NOT hurting or degrading them, and they are being paid well for their efforts, with full knowledge others will be watching to comfort them selves. (5)If you feel porn is wrong take a day and go somewhere outside nice and secluded with paper and pen and ask yourself why. Is it because people have told you so because people have told them so because people have told them so...? see point 4. Examine the root of the guilt and again please please please have compassion for your human self. In closing i believe moderation is the spice of life and challenge breeds excellence. If you are in a relationship have a conversation with your lover about your porn use, if not than supplement as necessary. Porn is very addicting and can be damaging to your brain (reversible). If it is interfering with your life cut way way back. If your life is productive despite your porn use than guilt will be far more damaging. It took me longer than i would like to admit to feel this way and i am all the freer from it. You may want to try to stop trying to be what you feel the world wants you to be and just be yourself. The ball is forever in our court. Last edited by CANDC; 08-08-2018 at 06:55 PM.. Reason: Remove caps |
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I discovered porn when I was young and spent my teen years on a quest to get as much as possible. I got in a lot of trouble when my mom found my stash. As I got older it became less and less important, and now I watch about an hour of porn every other month or so. As long as everyone in it are consenting adults there's nothing wrong with it.
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I think porn is helpful. I just watched a bisexual orgy which shows how men have sex with both men and women. But the women almost never touched. So women might be wary of other women?
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It's all preferences with individuals ( even the orgy women question- I have seen some porns that women are all over each other) and I agree if all are consenting there is no reason to be ashamed.
I used to have a big trigger with porn, along with I felt horrible if I enjoyed watching it - but now I watch or look at pornographic images from time to time. It's been therapeutic in it's own way for me.... I just reminded myself what many have posted, it is natural and if all are consenting then well those people enjoyed that moment in life and shared it. Some people don't ever watch or look, it's not their thing- and that's their choice and there is nothing wrong with that when it comes to personal decisions. On a personal note- I do note though that there are times that I am using porn and/or masturbation to fill voids - and I end up feeling worse. What I do personally is take a break, because it is something with me that is needing balance that sex isn't going to fill. we all do what we need to do for ourselves in the end, and as far as judgement from others- we all could judge another for some thing that they do; and no one is 100% perfect, even if they think they are, .
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You may or may not have a gf or bf but if you don't you probley understand what I mean. cheers. |
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I used to believe I was sick, at best, deeply troubled (re my porn outlet) now though, I've learned, my "habit" has helped me explore many things, and that's isn't depraved, if anything, watching porn (imho) is a healthy and natural way of satisfying ones curiosity and your genuine needs. It's wise not to become dependent on it. In my book? If all your doing, is watching, and acting out on yourself, no real harm is being done. I actually admire you, for sharing this. Ty xx
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I respect your business and I don't understand why you need porn to make yourself feel better when you have a wife to be with? Does she not support your feelings in the bedroom? Having a marriage is important when it comes to intimacy. Maybe most women don't share every fanasty like you do. If you seem to figure out she doesn't like that then find an way what SHE likes and be involved with it and maybe your love session will make marriage a better life. Being close to your wife is way important than sharing your own pleasures than some porn video. Even though porn videos help you improve your sex life but it's important to share those feelings with your wife and maybe find a way what she enjoys. Don't judge her if she doesn't like it. Not everyone shares the same thought process as we do. Nobody is perfect. Be glad you have a wife man! |
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Porn programs our perceptions and expectations of sex and desensitizes us in a high-stakes landscape fraught with predation, psychological trauma, unplanned pregnancies and STDs.
I like it anyway. |
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