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Old 10-29-2005, 01:16 PM #21
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At the moment, I have a new reason not to cut. And that new reason is that I am so scared of starting over from the beginning...I mean, it's been a month, and I can say now "It's been a month since I last cut" and the idea that if I cut I'd have to go back to "It's been an hour since I last cut"...ugh it scares me.
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Good for you, tamzin!

I've been about a month without reaching for something to hurt myself with too.
My reason for not - it shows me that I have some strength in me still that I can resist the urge. Dunno if that makes sense to anyone else.

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It makes sense to me. Resisting when you want to hurt yourself shows more strength, and develops more strength. The more you resist, the healthier you will be and the more able to find better solutions to what is bothering you.
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my reason : vanity lol.
i want to go swimming this summer.. i want to show my legs and i want to look like a woman, not a mess of scars.
i havent SI'ed in over a week, so theres a start Reasons Not To

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I was just about to post here when I went back, reread kendalika's post and realised it was almost identical to what I had written. So just to re-emphasise some of what (she) said:-
* it's addicting. Even if you stop for a time, you may not have overcome it
* the scars don't go away. That is a HUGE prob for me; I am really self-concious and totally embarrassed of them
* your kids will be confused (mine aren't yet, although they have seen all my scars and no2 has to watch as they are dressed and treated when necessary)
* your marriage could end (well, mine just has with my husband citing that my SIing is too much for him- totally NOT the reason we have split but degrading and humiliating for me)
* it is much harder to date with scars that are hard to hide (a fear that looks like it may well come true)
* and for me, now I don't even feel the physical pain (considering I do it to 'feel' the emotional pain it kinda makes the whole process pointless!). I just dissociate, without trying or meaning to, when I SI so I often don't realise I have hurt myself til afterwards and in my latest instance I have needed stitches and now for 'it' to be dressed every 2nd day due to the deepness and infection (I did it 3 weeks ago; the only memory I have of it is the horrible flashbacks when I was at the deepest point)
I don't ever want to see anyone else doing this to themselves, much less my chn, and I wish they didn't have to see the reality of it every day. One day I will break this awful addiction, I just wish I could today...
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because feeling good for a little bit is not worth a lifetime of scars and lies that accompany them.
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1. It makes me feel worse than I already feel
2. It scares the people who really care about me
3. It scares ME, because it makes me realize what I'm capable of. If I'm capable of SI...
4. Its messy if you cut deep, and it can leave a scar
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I know this thread is old, but I've been gone a long time Reasons Not To

I wrote these reasons not to si a long time ago, when I was trying to convince myself I wanted to quit.

I know that many of these reasons are hard to believe or internalize, but I hope this lists helps someone. Take it one day at a time...

It brings as many bad feelings as it chases away

You have hurt enough

Protecting the child inside you, who is already wounded

Self-injury makes relationships with others harder: it isolates you, may make you feel ashamed and/or feel the need to be secretive or push others away

You need to be able to experience your feelings in order to learn to cope effectively, and recover

Feeling worse about yourself after you're past the si incident

You do not need to have cuts or scars to prove it: your pain IS REAL

You do not deserve to be punished

You have a right to your feelings, and you have been denied that right for too long already

Avoiding si can help you learn to feel safe with yourself. You deserve to feel safe

You can rely on your higher power, whatever/whoever that may be to love and protect you. And you will feel that security and safety even more when you are not being self-destructive

Self-injury is a "quick-fix" that really doesn't fix the problem, only distracts from it temporarily

Real healing is possible for you, even though sometimes that is hard to believe
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Why because it can cut veins which are made of a thick collegian coating and there is only so much collegian in your body and collegian also helps fight off fat and keep muscle.
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Why I never want to do it again - (maybe I won't)

1) Dignity - When I SI I attack my own dignity and make myself feel worse and less worthy (of love and attention, which everyone deserves)

2) Self-respect - Losing respect for myself and my inability to stop would destroy whatever shred of self-esteem I have left

3) Questionning - Hiding scars from people is hard (I use a manual wheelchair and I have to push up my sleeves to wheel places so they don't get dirty - This is how a few of my friends found out about my SIng)

4) Love - How can I say I love myself when I physically attack myself? I have problems with trying to love myself already, why do I want to make it harder for me?

So this is my small list of why I have to continue to fight to not return to self-injuring.

Hope it works.
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