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Old 05-11-2005, 03:45 PM #11
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i like the idea of lotion and oils and such..i also like to hold soft things..keep my hands busy
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Angela K,

Thanks for making this thread active again. It was a good review for me. I hope that it helps you too.

Starbright, lotion and oils are good. Sometimes I really need lotion and deliberately don't use it. I struggled with allowing myself to use moisturizer, and rebelled every time someone on one of my email lists said to use moisturizer, but finally was able to do that.

One of the best things for me is to hold my dog or my cat. Although I have several pets, I am blessed with one dog and one cat who each just love being held on my lap, and will stay there as long as I need them to, and they seem pretty sensitive to comforting me, and I feel like they understand when I'm feeling bad, and I don't have to find words to explain it to them. A soft toy animal might not be quite the same, but I have gotten a lot of comfort that way too.
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I like something smooth and soft..I think I'm weird. Cause..stuffed animals, and I have a mink blanket and some animal skins..I'll run my hands over the softness and I'm not really thinking of anything..just like that it's soft..if I'm in a bad mood I'd start out pretty hard, but get softer..I'm just strange
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I like it when the critters come and get in my face and want attention and I need to give it and smile because they are just too adorable. I love it if I lay still on the couch and they sleep on me. The weight is a comfort. Hallibeth, these are awesome ideas and many are a part of my life. I believe that we can change the behavior and do something that more directly meets our down deep needs. Smell is a place that can comfort or upset me. I love comforting odors. Lavender and wild flower oil are the best but fresh cut Grass is cool too.
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always keep yourself perocupied. this is kinda implied in all the others, but you get the idea
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Let your hands hold something that makes your eyes smile.
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I have found that if I read a book, It helps me a great deal..

I also have started writting poetry again. Which to me is a realease on my own pain..

I hope and pray ever day I do not cut anymore..
I have not for almost six months which is a first for me in a very long time..
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Folding clothes... why not?
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IT may sound insulting but try this. It's simple. Easy and requires the least bit of physical effort. DONT DO IT!

For real, being a "recovering" self mutilater I have been through the ups and downs of urges and than the regrets. Like a crack addict we suffer from the same affliction. An addiction I call it. Something to release the pain.

What are you supposed to do instead? Be creative. I know what helps me is writing it out word for word what I am doing and how I am doing it and what I am feeling. So the whole mental process is captured on paper and physically there are no cuts for people to gawk at.

If you are desperate and really really want to quit, you should be willing to try anything. Once you get time under your belt (just like in AA) it does get a little easier.

If all else fails, tell yourself that you will do it in ten minutes. Wait ten minutes. If you still feel the urge after the ten minutes give yourself ten more. THIS IS ACTUAL EFFECTIVE. Results vary however. If ten minutes is too long, start with five.

Remember the reasons why you don't want to cut helps to. For example for me, I know that working in a public place in a management postion dealing with people in a small community in the summer time can not support such coping mechanisms.

It does suck though once the thought gets there. It becomes a compulsion. An obsession. But REMEMBER FIRST AND FOREMOST YOU ARE IN CONTROL.

Do you want to be an actor in the play or the director? Life is your script to write. Whether you write your own script or follow another's is up to you. And there are no rewrites.

(((((SPRINKLING LOVE YOUR WAY FROM PURGATORY)))))) Smile! Think differently to get different results. That's where it begins. Or am I wrong?

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i'm playin doctor. puttin bandaids on cuts that arent there.
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