[Sisabel]

I’ve been thinking about the serenity prayer lately... about accepting the things I cannot change... I’ve been having an especially hard time with this. Isn’t that true suffering though? It’s not the situations that cause us pain so much as it is our inability to accept them... right?

What has helped you with acceptance and letting go?

[Travelinglady]

By realizing that by not accepting I am just making my life harder and making myself miserable and also by looking on the bright side of things and trying to find humor where I can

[MickeyCheeky]

It's hard to let go but we must try, even if it takes time. I struggle with that, as well

[golden_eve]

I try to see it through the eyes of someone who knows better than me about what's truly right for me. I try to see it basically through the eyes of a God of sorts... like, this had to happen for your own good, it is truly for the best, you will eventually see. Right now it hurts, and maybe even a LOT, but eventually, you will see that it was for your own good and to bring you to a better place in life. That's what helps me.

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by Sisabel

It’s not the situations that cause us pain so much as it is our inability to accept them... right?

It's how we are perceiving our life circumstances and experiences which dictates our mental/emotional responses to them - whether we perceive in a manner that contributes to hurting/suffering, or we perceive in a manner that promotes acceptance.... How we perceive is directly tied to our state of awareness...

Originally Posted by Sisabel

What has helped you with acceptance and letting go?

Expanding my state of awareness through engaging in inner-work... As my state of awareness expanded and changed - so did my manner of perceiving (and this changed my former mental/emotional responses to the same set of circumstances)

[Fuzzybear]

[Mopey]

Originally Posted by Sisabel

I’ve been thinking about the serenity prayer lately... about accepting the things I cannot change... I’ve been having an especially hard time with this. Isn’t that true suffering though? It’s not the situations that cause us pain so much as it is our inability to accept them... right?

What has helped you with acceptance and letting go?

Ive been having a horrible time with something in this category for about a year just when i think i may be making progress and it’s not bothering me as much some memory will kick in and make me miserable again 😢

[Sisabel]

Originally Posted by Mopey

Ive been having a horrible time with something in this category for about a year just when i think i may be making progress and it’s not bothering me as much some memory will kick in and make me miserable again

I understand this. Sometimes we get stuck in the same place and spin our wheels for a while.

[HappyCrafter]

This is tough. There are so many horrors done to abuse survivors that are unthinkable to face, much less accept. Sadly, though, that is where the work has to begin.

Those situations are parts of our realities, they are facts of our lives. That doesn't make them easier to face. If we can somehow muster up the courage to face them, accept them so we can get through them, the most amazing healing happens. We can truly begin to get those monstrosities behind us. They become part of our recovery past, the battle scars we all carry.

I try to keep my sight on the healing and how I hope to help others like us who are looking for answers in their lives. If I can demonstrate how I got through mine, maybe one day, they can get through theirs. But only when they are ready.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((Everyone)))) You're all very strong. You can do this.