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Old 01-22-2019, 01:58 PM   #21
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It's how we are perceiving our life circumstances and experiences which dictates our mental/emotional responses to them - whether we perceive in a manner that contributes to hurting/suffering, or we perceive in a manner that promotes acceptance.... How we perceive is directly tied to our state of awareness...



Expanding my state of awareness through engaging in inner-work... As my state of awareness expanded and changed - so did my manner of perceiving (and this changed my former mental/emotional responses to the same set of circumstances)
That is great advice! I wish I had thought about that myself!
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Ive been having a horrible time with something in this category for about a year just when i think i may be making progress and it’s not bothering me as much some memory will kick in and make me miserable again 😢
I do this myself! I feel like this all the time!
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I understand this. Sometimes we get stuck in the same place and spin our wheels for a while. Acceptance & Letting Go
I agree. I do this all the time.
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Old 01-22-2019, 02:02 PM   #24
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This is tough. There are so many horrors done to abuse survivors that are unthinkable to face, much less accept. Sadly, though, that is where the work has to begin.

Those situations are parts of our realities, they are facts of our lives. That doesn't make them easier to face. If we can somehow muster up the courage to face them, accept them so we can get through them, the most amazing healing happens. We can truly begin to get those monstrosities behind us. They become part of our recovery past, the battle scars we all carry.

I try to keep my sight on the healing and how I hope to help others like us who are looking for answers in their lives. If I can demonstrate how I got through mine, maybe one day, they can get through theirs. But only when they are ready.
That is great advice!
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((((Everyone)))) You're all very strong. You can do this.
Thank you for the inspiration words!
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Old 01-22-2019, 02:06 PM   #26
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Letting go of pain, especially pain inflicted by those who are supposed to love us, including ourselves, is extremely difficult and if not done completely, can continue to cause us harm all our lives.

If anyone tells you they are burden free...run away! They are obviously not human and are going to zap you and plant a clone pod in your closet.

That being said...here is what has helped me. I practice Mindfulness meditation and have slightly altered a Reiki mantra to help me stay centered. Ahem...here goes...

Just for today; I will not look back into pain.
Just for today; I will not look forward into worry.
Just for today; I will project only loving energy to every living or “non” living (thing, creature, etc.) I encounter or touch.
Just for today; I will find something beautiful in all things my senses touch.
Just for today; I will be grateful for all the beauty around me.
Just for today; I know I am OK.
Just for today; I will forgive myself and others.
Just for today; I am love.
Just for today; I am brave.
Just for today; I am safe.
Just for today...I AM (insert whatever you want here. Depending on your daily goal)

One day, minute, moment, at a time.
That is great advice! I will keep this in mind. I just start practicing mindful meditation.
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Thank you, this does help a little in my current situation, and I will try, bc I can't do anything else. I have to accept.
You can do it Katy. It takes practice
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I can relate. I want to believe that all people are inherently good, but need to accept that some people may never change.

I think time and distance are always helpful in the letting go process.
Great advice! I will keep that in mind.
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I had a horribly difficult time accepting my new life post mental breakdown. For 5+ years I grieved the incredibly active lifestyle I led before my mental break. I had been manic for near a year and consequently had lived rather high on the hog spending a great deal of money on having fun and pursuing extreme outdoor activities and other risky behaviour.

After I got sick I couldn't look at water without grieving over being unable to kayak. I couldn't look at a tree without remembering the forests I once explored, and so on.

So what made the difference? A healthy relationship led to a change in my perspective and that while my life is nowhere near the exciting one it once was, I have every reason to be content with it.
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I had a horribly difficult time accepting my new life post mental breakdown. For 5+ years I grieved the incredibly active lifestyle I led before my mental break. I had been manic for near a year and consequently had lived rather high on the hog spending a great deal of money on having fun and pursuing extreme outdoor activities and other risky behaviour.



After I got sick I couldn't look at water without grieving over being unable to kayak. I couldn't look at a tree without remembering the forests I once explored, and so on.



So what made the difference? A healthy relationship led to a change in my perspective and that while my life is nowhere near the exciting one it once was, I have every reason to be content with it.


That is a good example of grieving and then moving on.
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