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Thanks. Yes, I think clients might pop up in therapists minds in intimate situations as well. I donīt think itīs as common as when clients think about their therapists but that therapists also find clients attractive sometimes, either physically or emotionally.


I though donīt think an ethical therapist consciously "chooses" clients to think about like a client might return to thoughts about their therapist when in intimate situations. But that thoughts about clients more randomly runs through their minds, I strongly believe that happens.



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I've thought about it with my ex-MC and current T, both male. I've also wondered if they ever thought about me when they did that.
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Thanks. One interesting part in this I think is that donīt you think your therapist or a therapist sometimes has thought about you or a client in such a way?


I personally donīt chose to see a male therapist partly because I would never be sure if he had such thoughts about me. I would always wonder if he "checked me out" when I left the office or similar, especially if he was single. And thatīs not at all because I see myself as attractive but because it for males, now very generally speaking, are more common to look at and be drawn to a woman figure than the other way around.


I have though noticed that female T:s or other counselors Iīve met reacts to some clothing Iīve wore but then I donīt see that in a similar sexual way (as none of my T:s has been homosexual). Then itīs more seeing someone in "some nice clothes" more than looking at my figure kind of thing.





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My friend used to say she thought my T probably did based on things he said/did with me... however, I find it very hard to believe ANY guy would think of me for that.... they may think of me if they are vomiting but not that.

The other thing is, no doubt our male T's do it.... it's just not a rabbit hole I like to go down in my mind. I think it could make things super weird if so
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Sarah, how do you know that none of your Ts we're homosexual?
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Yeah I’ve definitely thought of this... and also like LT said, I wonder if he ever thinks of me during. It sucks being attracted to him.
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Thanks. Because the first one had children and even is she was single I understood "between the lines" so to speak that she was straight. The second one actually told me she had had several relationships with men and my latest T who now abandoned me is married to a man. Even if the sexual orientation plays a minor part in my story about transference, I thought about the difference between having a male or female T.



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Thanks. Because the first one had children and even is she was single I understood "between the lines" so to speak that she was straight. The second one actually told me she had had several relationships with men and my latest T who now abandoned me is married to a man. Even if the sexual orientation plays a minor part in my story about transference, I thought about the difference between having a male or female T.
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Thanks. One interesting part in this I think is that donīt you think your therapist or a therapist sometimes has thought about you or a client in such a way?


I personally donīt chose to see a male therapist partly because I would never be sure if he had such thoughts about me. I would always wonder if he "checked me out" when I left the office or similar, especially if he was single. And thatīs not at all because I see myself as attractive but because it for males, now very generally speaking, are more common to look at and be drawn to a woman figure than the other way around.


I have though noticed that female T:s or other counselors Iīve met reacts to some clothing Iīve wore but then I donīt see that in a similar sexual way (as none of my T:s has been homosexual). Then itīs more seeing someone in "some nice clothes" more than looking at my figure kind of thing.
I don't think I'm sexually desirable to any man. I'm gross and that's that

I also highly doubt therapists actually think of clients while masturbating, I think it's more wishful thinking from a client view.... they have many other options to get off on, and ya it could happen from time to time with a client or two... but not common and I'd say most therapists never do

I'd be interested to hear therapists views on it but truly doubt it's anything more than wishful thinking from clients.
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Thanks. I donīt mean in a sense that one of my former therapists would create fantasies about me and masturbate to them. More, like can happen to me, getting images flashing by seeing me or other clients when the therapist is in a sexual situation.



If a therapist has thought of a client because of something happening in therapy, a thought of a client could also be present when in a sexual situation. Not because it turns them on but more because masturbation or sex with another person involves a lot of different feelings, both joy and sometimes also sadness. That I think can bring forward memories or images of clients, even if very temporary.



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I don't think I'm sexually desirable to any man. I'm gross and that's that

I also highly doubt therapists actually think of clients while masturbating, I think it's more wishful thinking from a client view.... they have many other options to get off on, and ya it could happen from time to time with a client or two... but not common and I'd say most therapists never do

I'd be interested to hear therapists views on it but truly doubt it's anything more than wishful thinking from clients.
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Default Re: Erotic transference: Do you ever imagine your therapist masturbating?

Yes I've thought about it. I think it makes him seem more vulnerable and human as others have said. I also think it's quite natural to be curious about the sexuality of people you are close to. I think it's quite a young feeling, for me anyway.

As an aside, I have kids and I wouldn't call myself straight. I would call myself bi.
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