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Hi Lizzie - As someone who has suffered years of MDD and at times uncontrollable eating, I just wanted to say I feel for you and give you my little advice... you need to get out and do something every day. Sitting around by yourself will only fuel your depression and make you feel more isolated. Even if it's a small step, get moving and feel proud for every single thing you do. Practice extreme honesty with psychiatrists.
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I dont know if this is the correct section to post re wanting to change Shrinks.

This is the first time in two or so years that i have posted anything. My problem among everything else is that I have been seeing a therapist for 4 or so years now.

I think he is actually doing me more harm than good. He dosent take me seriously, he dismisses or cuts me off mid sentence not allowing me to express my concerns. I dont know, maybe im expecting too much of him? All i know is that i have this gut instinct that he isn't caring or empathetic . Not once, or at least since I can remember have I ever left his rooms and gained any insight or learned how to deal with my problems.

Whenever I say something and he doesnt know what to say he changes the subject and asks me something totally unrelated to what to say. I could be in the middle of explain something which i feel is important, what he does is discuss the weather, or just say something downright stupid.

Honestly i feel like im banging my head a against a brick wall and if anything I think he actually makes me feel worse. Its as though he has pigeon holed me in the too hard basket. In just wondering is anyone else has felt this way and if so how do you move and find another therapist.

Hows this for an arrogant self centered prick. One time i happened to come across a medical site where people can write a review regarding any doctor. I remember this one time we were looking something up on his computer and i said try this site. He was surprised and wasn't aware of this site.

That was back in approx August last year. He had no reviews back then, Now all of a sudden he has something like 12 reviews posted. Most of them glowing and then of course there are a few reviews which are not so positive.ones to make it seem genuine. The site is called RateMDs

Let me post a few reviews and please let me know if these reviews sound legit.

Dr Xis the best psychiatrist I have met so far. He very competent and a great listener he works with me to solve problems resulting from my bipolar disorder. He has also helped me cope with a certain govt dept. He is a really nice person and always very positive and caring

Another one....
The reason I think Dr X is an excellent psychiatrist is because he is humanistic in his approach, he does not label you in the first session, he is thorough and very comprehensive in his assessment/s. He does not load you with medication and takes a very conservative approach when prescribing drugs. I found him open to debatable discourse and at times we agreed to disagree and i appreciated his broad knowledge base.

Humanistic?
How common is that word?
That's shrink lingo not patient lingo.
Please correct me if im wrong .

This is the meaning of the word Humanistic
The humanistic approach in psychology developed as a rebellion against what some psychologists saw as the limitations of the behaviorist and psycho dynamic psychology. The humanistic approach is thus often called the “third force” in psychology after psychoanalysis and behaviorism (Maslow, 1968).

Another one....
Dr X restored my faith in psychiatrists. After some very negative experiences with some very under developed banal psychiatrist, it was a life changing experience to finally be treated with respect and understanding by a highly knowledgeable, insightful psychiatrist. He was always available and supportive. I would have no hesitation in recommending him for anyone who is genuinely suffering any form of mental or emotional distress.

And another
Dr X is one of the few psychiatrist i believe is genuine and not giving a government dept only what they want to hear. He puts all those guns for hire to shame. He is a person of high integrity and gives a balanced view and report.

Anyway i think you get the general idea.,
Am i correct in assuming that he wrote them himself?
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He definitely sounds like a piece of work. I personally don't care for male physicians of any kind, as I often have felt like they didn't listen to me and didn't give a ****, either. Other people feel differently. Regardless, sounds like it's time to give someone else a try.
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Thank you susannahsays

I realize that that he actually triggers my panic attacks.

He sees me a broken borderline who cant be fixed

He makes me think that im a hardcore Borderline case and I'm simply a waste of his time. Because he thinks and treats me like an illness, the more and more entrenched and deeper these thoughts of me being a borderline become.

I want and need someone who can help me!!!

I want to improve the quality o my life, I feel as though I'm begging him to help me but he just wont listen.

Actually by writing this post its as though i have had light bulb moment. He DOES make me feel like a hopeless case.

Four years ago when my husband left me after 20 years of marriage I was almost suicidal. I begged him to help me. I needed care, I couldn't look after myself. I kept asking him please I need help, I cant deal with this situation all on my own. He ignored my cries for help. I honestly don't know how i survived one of the painful times in my life. I have private cover, he could have sent me for respite but he refused to do so....

I heard something back then, but i so traumatized that i didn't look into it. If it was true or not. I have reason to believe that my former GP called him to express that he was worried about my state of mind. IDK if this true or not but someone told me that his response was something like "dont worry about her, all she wants is attention".

I have confronted him about this and of course he denies that he said anything of the sort. I think he did say those words or words to that effect.

All of this stuff is not the borderline in me who is talking. It's something I have carried with me for the past four years. And to anyone who says "why didn't you stop seeing him sooner"? I reply that I have busy trying to build a life for myself. My ex left me with nothing apart from some money that had set aside. I have had spinal surgery and many other issues regarding my physical health.

So many things that have taken precedence over him.

He keeps insisting that i can afford to purchase my own place but cant. My best option is to rent. If i purchase a place i would be using all the money i have. I would end up having to sell. Renting is my best option because my money will grow and see me through retirement.

He lives in lala land, I spent my last appointment with him with evidence that i cant afford to buy my own place. For once I think i won that debate. In one way Im glad that i proved to him that im right and he's wrong.

The flip side is that I now i feel really angry because he never ever took me seriously to begin with....

He makes light of everything

He makes me feel passive aggressive

At least i have gotten the off my chest, I hadn't realized how toxic he is to my health. Now that i have made this discovery I dont want to see him again but i have choice unless i can find someone who can see me....
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Feels like he's gas lighting me

The only reason i see him for is in order to get my meds.

He has no problems in dishing out drugs

Its good for him because he doesnt have to work, he lets the meds do all his work for him
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How on earth can i tell my husband what happened? I have to learn to live with the secret for the rest of my life. Its trying to deal with the trust that i had for my therapist for 20 years. All those years i believed that he had my best interests at heart but he used and violated me. He knew the consequences that his actions would leave on me but he didnt care. He thought first and foremost about himself and groomed me to believe and to trust him. I feel so torn between my feelings of trust and my feelings of hatred and disgust at him. How can i ever trust anyone ever again....
Part of the damage your exploitative T has done - he has created a toxic secret that you have to protect. I have told only a few people that the woman I lived with for two years was first my therapist. Double whammy of the lesbian stigma in a small town. You have the doubling of the pain because of the secret kept from your husband . I don’t have an answer - I wish I did.
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I dont know if this is the correct section to post re wanting to change Shrinks.

This is the first time in two or so years that i have posted anything. My problem among everything else is that I have been seeing a therapist for 4 or so years now.

I think he is actually doing me more harm than good. He dosent take me seriously, he dismisses or cuts me off mid sentence not allowing me to express my concerns. I dont know, maybe im expecting too much of him? All i know is that i have this gut instinct that he isn't caring or empathetic . Not once, or at least since I can remember have I ever left his rooms and gained any insight or learned how to deal with my problems.

Whenever I say something and he doesnt know what to say he changes the subject and asks me something totally unrelated to what to say. I could be in the middle of explain something which i feel is important, what he does is discuss the weather, or just say something downright stupid.

Honestly i feel like im banging my head a against a brick wall and if anything I think he actually makes me feel worse. Its as though he has pigeon holed me in the too hard basket. In just wondering is anyone else has felt this way and if so how do you move and find another therapist.

Hows this for an arrogant self centered prick. One time i happened to come across a medical site where people can write a review regarding any doctor. I remember this one time we were looking something up on his computer and i said try this site. He was surprised and wasn't aware of this site.

That was back in approx August last year. He had no reviews back then, Now all of a sudden he has something like 12 reviews posted. Most of them glowing and then of course there are a few reviews which are not so positive.ones to make it seem genuine. The site is called RateMDs

Let me post a few reviews and please let me know if these reviews sound legit.

Dr Xis the best psychiatrist I have met so far. He very competent and a great listener he works with me to solve problems resulting from my bipolar disorder. He has also helped me cope with a certain govt dept. He is a really nice person and always very positive and caring

Another one....
The reason I think Dr X is an excellent psychiatrist is because he is humanistic in his approach, he does not label you in the first session, he is thorough and very comprehensive in his assessment/s. He does not load you with medication and takes a very conservative approach when prescribing drugs. I found him open to debatable discourse and at times we agreed to disagree and i appreciated his broad knowledge base.

Humanistic?
How common is that word?
That's shrink lingo not patient lingo.
Please correct me if im wrong .

This is the meaning of the word Humanistic
The humanistic approach in psychology developed as a rebellion against what some psychologists saw as the limitations of the behaviorist and psycho dynamic psychology. The humanistic approach is thus often called the “third force” in psychology after psychoanalysis and behaviorism (Maslow, 1968).

Another one....
Dr X restored my faith in psychiatrists. After some very negative experiences with some very under developed banal psychiatrist, it was a life changing experience to finally be treated with respect and understanding by a highly knowledgeable, insightful psychiatrist. He was always available and supportive. I would have no hesitation in recommending him for anyone who is genuinely suffering any form of mental or emotional distress.

And another
Dr X is one of the few psychiatrist i believe is genuine and not giving a government dept only what they want to hear. He puts all those guns for hire to shame. He is a person of high integrity and gives a balanced view and report.

Anyway i think you get the general idea.,
Am i correct in assuming that he wrote them himself?
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Humanistic?
How common is that word?
That's shrink lingo not patient lingo.
Please correct me if i'm wrong .

This is the meaning of the word Humanistic
The humanistic approach in psychology developed as a rebellion against what some psychologists saw as the limitations of the behaviorist and psycho dynamic psychology. The humanistic approach is thus often called the “third force” in psychology after psychoanalysis and behaviorism (Maslow, 1968).


This one has to be my favourite one though WTF does he really think people are going to believe that one. He's as stupid as he is a hopeless shrink
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