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Old 02-13-2018, 04:50 AM   #1
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My partner and I moved in together in December and Iím learning a new side to him. I am absolutely hating the role Iíve taken on in this relationship.

If ANYTHING breaks or needs attention I must just figure out how to fix it

We need the council to come pick up rubbish (old mattresses) and I asked him this weekend if heíd rung and he told me youíre the female you ring and fix it.

On the weekend the front gate broke. Guess what? He told me to fix it.

A grape vine growing by our roof fell with the wind and I couldnít reach and guess what? He told me to fix it.

Last night our Foxtel broke .., and yup ... you guessed it.

Today I got home from work and the Internet wasnít working. By the time heíd got home Iíd been having a crack at the cables for half an hour and he said ďGood for youĒ.

Iím furious

Heís been trying to fix up bits and pieces at his old place and has his folks who are retired helping him and itís been 6 weeks and heís STILL not done.

Sorry for the rant Iím desperate and yes Iíve spoken to him and told him that he has responsibilities in this role in this relationship too
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Old 02-13-2018, 04:53 AM   #2
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I really donít know if I want to punch a pillow or cry right now
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Old 02-13-2018, 05:03 AM   #3
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What did he say when you told him he has responsabilities? Did he just agree and continued as if nothing happened?
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Yeah what happened? Did you guys talk through it? Moving in with someone DOES end up revealing their true colors, and since its only been a couple of months, I am glad you are at least seeing this now.

Deep breaths, and don't attack him with rants or anything, but whip that boy in shape!

He needs to take some responsibility!
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Old 02-13-2018, 05:36 AM   #5
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What did he say when you told him he has responsabilities? Did he just agree and continued as if nothing happened?
He acts as if nothing is his responsibility. His standard line is ďwell I donít know how to fix itĒ

I have just fixed the internet cable ... exactly 3 hours later
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Old 02-13-2018, 05:38 AM   #6
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Yeah what happened? Did you guys talk through it? Moving in with someone DOES end up revealing their true colors, and since its only been a couple of months, I am glad you are at least seeing this now.

Deep breaths, and don't attack him with rants or anything, but whip that boy in shape!

He needs to take some responsibility!
Weíre surpassed the talking about it stage. Iím now totally at the arguing stage. Iíve told him so many times I really donít like the role Iím playing. And I hate the fact that he gives up so easily. Heíll just look at something for 2 minutes and say I donít know and walk off
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Man, that sounds frustrating. Chances are this is coming from a greater issue in his personality/inner makeup that you guys are clashing over. It's one thing to not know how to fix things, it's another thing to see you in distress and not even try, and to shut out or ignore your concerns.

Keep in mind when you think about your living situation that this is probably just who he is right now and you probably won't get him to change. Best of luck...
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My husband fixes the tech stuff, I fix everything else, or at least attempt then tell him how to do it. My hands are weak from hurting most of the time. But yeah you need to set down some boundaries. Don't argue. Kill them with kindness. Maybe look up a youtube video for it for him to show him how to fix it. That's how I fix things. Youtube has almost everything. I still need to fix our dishwasher, but I'll get to that hopefully next month when I have some money. I grew up working on stuff so I got that stupid engineers mind and my husband doesn't.
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You dated for awhile so itís likely that you saw that side of him prior to moving in?

So he believes you should fix things because you are a ďfemaleĒ? One thing is not being a handy man which is fine and the other to expect you to make phone calls because yiu are a ďfemaleĒ. That goes beyond not knowing how to fix things

Is this your house? Honestly he might need to go to his own place.
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You dated for awhile so itís likely that you saw that side of him prior to moving in?

So he believes you should fix things because you are a ďfemaleĒ? One thing is not being a handy man which is fine and the other to expect you to make phone calls because yiu are a ďfemaleĒ. That goes beyond not knowing how to fix things

Is this your house? Honestly he might need to go to his own place.
Itís the first time weíve lived together as a couple. Weíre renting a new place. I didnít see it before because we werenít living together so I donít know what he did in terms of maintenance.
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