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Old 10-29-2017, 09:33 PM   #1
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I am totally obsessed with revenge, with getting back at him, with confronting him with his lies and BS. I cannot wait to get back at him. I cannot wait for the day when he tries to win me back, so that I can SLAM HIM and SLAM HIM HARD. I spent over $10,000 for this a-hole. What a crock of **** he turned out to be. I am seeing RED, bloody red because i am so livid. It's my own damn fault. I am too naive, too trusting, too good hearted, too nice... and he scammed me. WTF?????? He fed me nothing but lies this whole time, telling me I am the best thing ever happened to him.
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Old 10-29-2017, 09:40 PM   #2
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I understand the frustration at being used, emotionally and financially. It is OK to be angry about it.
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Anger is a normal reaction. Do you have the ability to get back the money? Does he live in your area where you could run into him?
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I am beyond angry. I am seeing bloody RED. Like I want someone to seriously hurt him, if not ME. I want someone to beat him to a pulp like he deserevs. No way to get the money back. It;s gone and he's never paying me back.
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Old 10-30-2017, 07:08 AM   #5
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Is this the same guy who was in the homeless shelter with no job & a mental condition whose aunt finally relented to allowing him to move back to his omd town from the homeless shelter that you bought the bus ticket for.

The guy you were willingly waiting to to go back to having a relationship IF ONLY he would pay you back the money he used from you while you wers living together.

Sounds like you may be angry about more than JUST THE MONEY if this is the same guy.

If i remember right you KNEW it was VERY GOOD possibility you would NEVER see your money again when you bought him the bus ticket. The reality of our internal gut feel knowledge coming true always hurts & makes us angry because we KNEW IT, we just didnt want to believe until there is ACTUAL PROOF our gut feel was RIGHT.
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Old 10-30-2017, 08:25 AM   #6
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Yes, it's the same guy. He fooled me. He's a jerk. I gave him chance after chance, and he blew it. I did know it back then and I allowed his so called words of "love" to influence me.
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I feel totally destroyed. I will never be the same again.
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I can totally empathize, I have up my dream job moved across the country had 4 kids and totally dedicated 10 years of my life to someone who sauntered off an made another woman pregnant, after saying he couldn't handle the commitment.

So I know angry, in fact it wasn't anger it was all consuming fury.
I would actually shake if I thought about seeing him again, and what I would say and do.

I felt I couldn't physically contain the emotions.
I wanted to physically hurt him.
Eventually though I realised I was just as angry at myself, and that the more time I spent obsessing over revenge, the more he was winning.

What your going through is normal, a totally acceptable part of grieving.
I don't know if revenge will make you feel better, I never got the chance.
I do know he never wasted a second thinking about me after he left and wasn't worthy of my time or effort.

It's true what they say, success is the best revenge.

I hope you can work through this, however that manifests itself.
Keep venting, and letting it out, hopefully one day you will find you forgot to even think about him.

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I feel totally destroyed. I will never be the same again.
Maybe that is a good thing....maybe not so quick to be fooled by words of love in the future.

Sometimes our feeling of anger when things like this happen is multiplied....not just at them for doing it but also at ourselves for alliwing it to happen.

I always dump the anger at myself & look at it in a positive light as a LEARNING OPPORTUNITY.
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You are a sweet person Eve, he played on your kind nature. It's awful when people do that.

You have a right to your anger, I'm glad you are expressing it. Do you have some outlets to chanel it, like a run/workout to pound out some of your frustrations?
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