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Unread 08-11-2017, 03:40 AM   #1
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Hello,

Since my other thread went off on a tangent, I'm creating another one here. I decided to not waste all of my energy on my married lover and will be seeing another lover. I have no interest in marriage so for me two lovers are more interesting and less emotionally draining. The married lover is still on the dating site looking for other women. Thus, I don't feel guilty about seeing another lover. I think I was becoming attached to the married lover but realized he is always looking for some booty. Even though I like him, I don't think he can be faithful to anybody. He is cheating on his wife and probably having some mid-life crisis. I also can't become too involved with him emotionally because he is not faithful to anybody. I might eventually become tired of him and leave him. The other lover is my previous lover who is always busy with work but comes around for his booty call. I like him too but know we will never marry. As a result, I am having fun with both men and am not too worried about hurting them or being hurt by them. I love sex so being booty call and talking occasionally is fine with me. I was mad at the previous lover for not communicating as much but realize he is truly busy with his work. Anyways, life is good and I'm doing fine. It works out well because I like both men physically and enjoy being with them as lovers. I don't want to get involved emotionally either because it is not worth it for me. Might as well enjoy life because life is short! Any comments?
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Unread 08-11-2017, 05:41 AM   #2
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You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes well you just might find
You just might find
You get what you need

The married man should expect this.

Does the other lover know about the married man? If he is in love with you he may not like the thought of you being with someone else.
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It is totally beyond me why someone would stay married while cheating with many others. What's the point? Anyway that's his moral dilemma to work out. If you are truly happy and okay having two lovers then more power to you.
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What comes between a mister and a mattress? A mistress.

If this is really satisfying to you and you are enjoying it, that's great. If you are only kidding yourself and you really want love, commitment, and respect, then rethink your priorities.
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Make sure you use protection. Sure way to get STD to sleep with many partners who in turn sleep with others as well. A bit of booty call isn't worth life with HIV
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Seems to me it's them that's getting something from this while you are giving. Examine just what you are getting out of this; is it equal? And how would you feel if the roles were reversed? Consider too that if this individual can so easily cheat on the wife he supposedly has a commitment to, that he probably will do the same to you.
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It's odd how people equate sex with the woman giving
Something and the man taking something.

How is what these two men are getting any different from what she is getting.
They are getting occasional sex and conversations.
She is getting occasional sex and conversations.
One guy is still chasing tail and has a wife.
She is still chasing tail and has a lover.
The other guy is too busy for a full time relationship and is content to keep things casual.
She is otherwise preoccupied and content to keep things casual and string free.

Whilst it isn't majority common there are women who enjoy uncomplicated attachment free sex.

Obviously if it isn't really what she wants she take time out to consider things.
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No, I am not equating sex with the woman necessarily being the giver. This man is married - he is basically getting his cake and eating it too. It is not a leap then to suggest he is the taker. Plus, his emotions are invested elsewhere and he has nothing invested in this. Sex or no sex she is the one investing herself in this 'relationship'.
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I agree with a lot of things said here, but what about what you're doing to the wife? I blame the husband more, because he made the commitment, but why do you want to be involved in betraying another woman? Her story may be different from his. What he's told you about the marriage may not be the truth. Even if it's not a happy marriage, getting involved with him is involving yourself in their marriage. Would you want someone to do that to you?
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Use protection and have fun! Have a threesome if it floats your boat....the world is your sexual oyster so be safe and enjoy. More power to you. (((Hugs)))
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