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Unread 08-11-2017, 03:40 AM   #11
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TishaBuv, hugs!

I wasn't around for a while so I have missed a lot whatever was discussed in the last year or two.

From the top of my head - do you have an option to stay away from your husband for some time? I sounds to me that you could use some alone time to put your thought, priorities and desires in order. Can you stay with your relatives or somebody you know for a week or two? My husband travels sometime, it really helps me to put my thoughts in order.

Have you tried asking him about his thoughts on how to resolve this new issue? You said he is pretty passive, does he ever show any initiative? If he does, in what circumstances?

I also agree with divine1966, as far as I can remember you were struggling with your marriage for some years now. What are the main reasons for you to stay in this relationship?

P.S. Again, missed a lot here. Sorry if any of this was discussed already.
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He does an excellent job. He's an employee of a group and the group got replaced. So he has to go with the group.

I am appalled at myself. I have been hysterical and seeking a solution and support on here and from my family and friends for so long.

Now I just accept I am the one who is damaged.

Why does my h put up with me? Why hasn't he thrown me out?
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He does an excellent job. He's an employee of a group and the group got replaced. So he has to go with the group.

I am appalled at myself. I have been hysterical and seeking a solution and support on here and from my family and friends for so long.

Now I just accept I am the one who is damaged.

Why does my h put up with me? Why hasn't he thrown me out?
I think I maybe am not understanding the issue. Unfortunately people lose jobs. He is likely to find another one. Do you live in the area with no jobs? Why is it causing so much devastation and drama? Is he just as devastated? What exactly are you so upset about it? Are you afraid of bankruptcy and foreclosure? I am lost on exact reason of hysteria. Can you manage on his unemployment compensation for few months? Do you have savings?
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I think I maybe am not understanding the issue. Unfortunately people lose jobs. He is likely to find another one. Do you live in the area with no jobs? Why is it causing so much devastation and drama? Is he just as devastated? What exactly are you so upset about it? Are you afraid of bankruptcy and foreclosure? I am lost on exact reason of hysteria. Can you manage on his unemployment compensation for few months? Do you have savings?
Hi Divine,

That post was misleading. I'm hysterical about out dysfunctional relationship, not about his job.

Fingers crossed, he might end up with an improved position. Chances are slim, though.

Why am I hysterical is the $100,000 question. There's been ridiculous dysfunction for so long, I've lost my mind over it.

This morning I had a sexy dream, woke up, reached out for my h, and we made passionate love. All is well with the world again. Reset the cycle of Torture Foreplay!
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Hi Divine,

That post was misleading. I'm hysterical about out dysfunctional relationship, not about his job.

Fingers crossed, he might end up with an improved position. Chances are slim, though.

Why am I hysterical is the $100,000 question. There's been ridiculous dysfunction for so long, I've lost my mind over it.

This morning I had a sexy dream, woke up, reached out for my h, and we made passionate love. All is well with the world again. Reset the cycle of Torture Foreplay!
Thank you for clarification. Sorry I was confused that it's because of a job. Hang in there.
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Tish, honey. I have no answers, but I hear you, and I care.

Relationships are hard. Some days more so than others.
And tailspins are NO FUN, I affirm.

Hang on, girl.

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Well, I prayed for change, and God gave us change in my h getting fired.

Now we're talking about him working with me at my job.
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Well, I prayed for change, and God gave us change in my h getting fired.

Now we're talking about him working with me at my job.
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He triggered me and cornered me, provoking me into a total psychotic meltdown. My son heard me screaming "Get away from me" over and over as he cornered me in the closet like a caged tiger. I'm sure the neighbors heard it. I nearly called the police, I just don't know what to do, feel so helpless and confused. My son seems ok, my h left for now. I recovered myself and made us lunch.

Tomorrow we have an appointment with our lawyer. I must find the courage to just put an end to this. So devastating.
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It is very threatening to corner someone, sorry you went through that.
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