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Unread 08-12-2017, 06:38 AM   #41
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It actually seems to me that most young guys are allured by older women. In contrast, older men seem to be invisible to younger women.
But I and other women have written on this thread that we were attracted to older men when we were younger so this is clearly not always the case. Statistically most people tend to date around the same age as themselves however, this is probably because they have more in common with each other, but there will always be people like me who date outside their own age range.

I think if you are concerned that women your own age are only interested in settling down then maybe you need to be really clear about what you want, it might be helpful to use a hook up app so everyone is clear from the start what is expected, that way the women you meet will be interested in hook ups too so there won't be any confusion.
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Unread 08-14-2017, 12:42 AM   #42
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I mean, I could be completely wrong. I am not saying I know any of this stuff for sure. What I am saying is that this is how things seem. And what I will also say is that whenever I ask about this, the things that people say to argue that it isn't true are not convincing at all. In fact they often times even reinforce this idea. I basically never see anybody saying anything that actually supports the idea that women are physically attracted to men in their late 20s and older in the same way they are attracted to the guys in their teens and early 20s. For example, no stories about women(of any age) wanting to sex with a 30 year old man so badly that they got into trouble because of it.
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Unread 08-14-2017, 09:47 PM   #43
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I mean, I could be completely wrong. I am not saying I know any of this stuff for sure. What I am saying is that this is how things seem. And what I will also say is that whenever I ask about this, the things that people say to argue that it isn't true are not convincing at all. In fact they often times even reinforce this idea. I basically never see anybody saying anything that actually supports the idea that women are physically attracted to men in their late 20s and older in the same way they are attracted to the guys in their teens and early 20s. For example, no stories about women(of any age) wanting to sex with a 30 year old man so badly that they got into trouble because of it.
You seem to not pay attention to what women on here are telling you. What other proof do you need? None of us was ever attracted to teens unless we were teens ourselves. We are real people.

As about getting in trouble. Not sure why one needs to be in trouble to prove a point. But if you insist...

I most certainly got myself in some really bizzare complicated situation because I wanted to be with so and so. At certain stages/ages of my life i had very high sex drive. Couple of stories are embarrassing. One was I believe in his late 30s and I was about 29 I think, it was a mess, yeah it was just sex. He was actually a criminal but I digress... One guy I was very crazy about, I was in my early 30s, he was 6 years younger, in his late 20s. My last (brief) escapades with bouts of casual desires was when I was in my late 40s, one was my age and one was about 8 years older.

Now the only time I was attracted to a teen was when I myself was a teen, like my high school boyfriend. I don't know any women attracted to teens unless they are teens themselves.

I understand things seem certain way to you. It's because you perceive thing in a distorted manner. I also think you may be using this distortion as an excuse why you are afraid to ask women out. Keep going to therapy
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Until you are out dating women you will have no idea what is reality and what is skewed thinking .

Go ask lots of people out
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