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Unread 06-30-2017, 08:30 AM   #11
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Unread 06-30-2017, 08:49 AM   #12
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i can't get a grip and i can't get a break. i take two steps forward, 50 steps back at everything i do, everything in my adult life has been this way and im not even 30 yet. i do everything to remain positive, but im literally broken inside and nothing helps.
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Unread 06-30-2017, 09:42 AM   #13
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I suggest you ready through your old threads… "Cant' deal anymore", "Completely bored in relationship" and "Don't know how to break up"

It will remind you why you're better off without him. In your own words, WRT abuse, "emotionally and mentally he takes the cake"

Its ok to miss someone, and to miss what you shared and the dreams and plans you had for the future. But that hurt doesn't mean you should take that person back, you'll just end up with your original hurts of how badly he treats you, refuses to commit and takes advantage of you financially…

I know this is really REALLY hard, but try seeing this with your rational mind instead of your emotional mind… A pros and Cons list is an excellent idea.

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Unread 06-30-2017, 09:49 AM   #14
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Ikr it kills.. but believe me if you trust God then everything will get alright. I know its diffilcult, its painful. Its terrifying. But gradually things will get better. Remember God is making your way clear. Love and hugs from my side 😚
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Unread 06-30-2017, 09:53 AM   #15
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I've been where you're at before. My first long term love and I broke up and it was really a healthy break if you take all the circumstances into consideration, but I was so devistated I couldn't get out of bed. I sobbed harder than I've ever sobbed, endlessly, for days, weeks. It felt like my arm had been chopped off. To be honest with you, I ended up pleading with him to take me back, and he did. But things were never the same after that. The damage was done. We were happy for a moment, but then we became incredibly insecure with each other. We always felt like we were one wrong word away from being back in that nightmarish hell that was our breakup. We dragged it out for a long time after that, both afraid and disconnected, but also both afraid to step away. In the end, it became unbearable to be together. Don't get me wrong, not all relationships end up that way. Maybe you even need to go back and finish learning the lesson your relationship is here to teach you. But, if you can find the courage, you may save yourself a lot more long term heart ache if you can clench your teeth and bear through this difficult time. Wishing you the best of luck, care, and love. <3
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Unread 06-30-2017, 09:56 AM   #16
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Trippin2.0 has some valid points. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. Maybe you have to let go of something that's merely okay in order to grasp something even better.
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I am feeling the same
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