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Old 10-20-2016, 04:06 AM   #1
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It's been some months now since i had to work with my old brother + living in his house along his gf

i started geting feelings for her after 2 months and even admited that to her
she said to me it's normal and that everyone already passed trough it
we have been like brother and sister a little before that, she said she likes me and that if we met once we would be a couple too

i asked if she also had deep feelings for me once too
she replied to me that she can't answer that cause it's not good for me or my old brother relationship
also said "lets focus on keeping our relationship ok? i don't want to see you depressed and i really like you"

Still felt envy of living with this couple once, and had devastating feelings too cause im living in same house with them after all
i had ups and downs cause im kinda dependent on her and often require 10 minutes each day of her atention only while holding hands
even though its an intimidating thing for brother/sister only it never did go further than that ofc cause i have a strong loyalty with my old brother.

Can tell a lot happened and will be easier to relate more to it when anyone starts giving me advice
all i can say is that i felt so much deep intense feelings that i even started to explore about anything regarding this, even my horoscope sign...
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Old 10-20-2016, 04:24 AM   #2
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Hi Scorpio and welcome to PC.

Yes, this is a very complicated relationship.

I am surprised that if your brother has picked up on the vibes that you give off towards his gf that he hasn't asked you to move out

I think his gf is being really kind in the way she has dismissed your questions about whether she has deep feelings for you too.

She's right - it's not good for her relationship with your brother; and it's not good for your relationship with your brother either.

What good will come of all of this?

If you do have strong loyalty towards your brother, you would possibly find a way to move out.

She does not seem to have given you any signal what so ever that she is about to leave your brother to be with you.
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Hi Scorpio and welcome to PC.

Yes, this is a very complicated relationship.

I am surprised that if your brother has picked up on the vibes that you give off towards his gf that he hasn't asked you to move out

I think his gf is being really kind in the way she has dismissed your questions about whether she has deep feelings for you too.

She's right - it's not good for her relationship with your brother; and it's not good for your relationship with your brother either.

What good will come of all of this?

If you do have strong loyalty towards your brother, you would possibly find a way to move out.

She does not seem to have given you any signal what so ever that she is about to leave your brother to be with you.
My older brother knows i wouldn't try anything other than hold hands or huggles
already told him that i see her as my sister and im really doing my best to achieve that
even if i had a big passion months ago im somehow getting there to see her as a sister

The fact she cried a bit for me when i was depressed once made me feel that i have a big friend for me at least.
Its been 7 months since we ever met, will let ya know how it keeps developing, still have 5 months to decide if i stay or go back to my country in Europe.

Currently working in Africa where everything can be rather more dificult to deal with.
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