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Old 03-17-2019, 02:09 PM #21
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Hi guys

Thanks for all your replies. I was able to reflect over them and make some changes.

Brief update. This situation happened back in Jan 2019.

So two months has passed. I made no contact with him during that time frame. I did however learn he has been socially isolating. No FB activity which is strange cuz his hooked and obsessed with FB.

I sent him a FB message to inform I was happy in my new job. He replied saying he was really glad things are going well for me.

I rang him on his phone. He answered. Seemed apprenshive when we talked. Told me about work. The main question he seemed interested and sounded choked in asking me where am I working? And whether I was happy? (We were work colleagues as well as dating). To which I said I am. Then he commented on if there's anyone who deserves to be happy. It's me! Whatever that means??

After the phone call. I noticed on my FB newsfeed. He had posted and was coming on/off line most of the day. This has been the most active he has been in quite a while.

Again very confusing!! Maybe it's another one of his hot and cold moments. Either way, I'm moving forward.

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Good for you moving on.

I dont think he is being hot and cold and I honestly dont see anything confusing. You are the one contacting him via Facebook and then phone call. Both times he replied in a polite manner and had polite conversation (which is a normal thing to do). I see no evidence of anything confusing.

Id not worry about his Facebook activities. They are not indicators of anything. I am not isolated and am very social yet I spend zero time on Facebook. Like none. My husband sometimes posts on Facebook daily but then will go off for weeks. Just busy. Or get tired of it. Some people have several accounts. I was recently contacted by old friend on social media, not Facebook. It prompted me to browse the site a bit, got nosy what people are up to or was bored. Id hate someone assuming I am being confusing or hot and cold. It means like nothing whatsoever

If anyone deserves to be happy is you is a very common phrase. Id not read into it.

Overall I am glad you are moving on! Id not worry about this guy.
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He was maybe apprehensive on the phone because he was clear few months ago that he wants neither romance nor friendship with you so he was probably unsure why you are calling. But he was still polite in his responses, which is nice of him. Its ok that you called and ok that he answered and was courteous. Id not push any further. If you feel tempted to check up on him and his activities on Facebook, Id try not to if possible especially if it forces you to ruminate about him, keep moving on instead
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I agree, FB activity means not a whole lot.

Glad your phone call was cordial.
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Yep, nothing confusing here, he is clear as day. No friendship or anything else. If you pursue any more contact with him through FB, text or phone, you are moving into creepy behavior.
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