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Old 02-10-2019, 08:52 PM   #31
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Are you ignoring all of the posts where people tell you to stop joking around at work? Itís really frustrating. Do you only want validation? If so, just say so.
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Old 02-10-2019, 08:58 PM   #32
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Repeatedly, you are behaving inappropriately at every job and then you want to compare your behavior to what others are doing.

Stop joking at work. Period. The end. Your manner of joking is not working.

Stop worrying about how others are behavior. Police your own behavior. Be pleasant and cooperative. No running. No yelling. Especially no talk about cannibals or murder.
I agree wholeheartedly.

Ruby, you are having a lot of trouble understanding limits on your behavior at work. Your counselor or whomever it was just told you itís unacceptable behavior. I understand you are trying to learn what is appropriate based on your co-workersí behaviors. However, for you, I think itís best to just go to work, do your work and not goof around. Understand that you have trouble with limits and boundaries. Also understand that yelling is never appropriate. Just do your work and focus on doing a good job.
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Are you ignoring all of the posts where people tell you to stop joking around at work? Itís really frustrating. Do you only want validation? If so, just say so.
Iím trying to imitate others but it kept turning out wrong. Iím trying to find the difference between what I do and what they do. So far, I know nobody else runs from someone and yell heís gonna eat them. It prolly woulda been fine if high school kids did it at work but they didnít.

Iím just complaining about that one person who now seems afraid to joke around with me bc of that one behavior from me. He became like that after the second time I did it. I avoid him like hell.
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Old 02-11-2019, 10:07 AM   #34
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Since your style of joking around has failed miserably on all your jobs....just STOP doing it & stop trying to imitate others joking. It is not working & your interpretation has gotten you into trouble in past jobs.

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NO it would NOT have been fine if high school kids did this at work. It is inappropriate for ANYONE in a work environment to do that behavior & high school kids KNOW this by that age. Your behavior was like a grade school child out on the play ground or kids goofing around NOT in a work environment.

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Iím just complaining about that one person who now seems afraid to joke around with me bc of that one behavior from me.
well yes, he is NOT going to joke around with you & encourage your bad behavior since joking around with you seems to encourage inappropriate behavior from you.
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Itís not appropriate for high school kids either
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Are you ignoring all of the posts where people tell you to stop joking around at work? Itís really frustrating. Do you only want validation? If so, just say so.

This! It is quite clear that your jokes/humor are not working in your work environment, so cut it out if you want to stay employed!
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Since your issue stems from being unable to determine what is appropriate and professional on the job, your best bet to be successful at work is to NOT joke at all. Be pleasant and cooperative.
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If you are management...you will get to set the tone for your work environment (within limits).

Although it is somewhat hypocritical, a good rule of thumb is to do as management says...not as they do. When others joke around simply smile to keep in good steed, whilst getting on with your work tasks.
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Everyone jokes around and it's funny, but when I do it, I get accused of screwing around too much. Like when I run from someone and yell that he's gonna cannibalize me every time I'm around him. Or when it's time for me to take over his position at drive thru or w/e and I jokingly walked off. He said to quit playing; he has other stuff to do. I also once ran off and yelled he's gonna murder me.

I was just joking around like everyone else. WHy is that a problem?

first simply put you're there to work. Running from someone and yelling seems to me like you're acting like it's social time not work. Secondly yelling out at a job that someone is going to cannibalize or murder you is quite a bit over the top for the work place. Assuming you are yelling like you said, and this is a public place like you've worked before if I remember correctly it's even more out of place and inappropriate.


The question of whether it's ok to joke around or not I don't think is the foundational problem here. I'm going to venture to guess that your joking probably isn't within the same limits that most others have of what's appropriate.
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Ruby, you're going to end up permanently jobless because no one wants to hire you, and you're already setting yourself up to have no one want to be around you. Every job you ruin will come back to haunt you when the next job calls your previous employers. You can't control your tongue, you can't keep your hands to yourself, you're a complainer, a whiner, absolutely inappropriate and you don't do any productive work. I'd consider going on disability.
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