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Old 12-11-2018, 06:57 PM   #1
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I am soo confused, the other day I went on my laptop and tried to login to my outlook account but my boyfriend of 6 months left his email signed on. When I glanced at his emails I noticed he has been responding to Craigslist adds. I noticed the dates of the when the email where sent and it was at the first 2 months of our relationship. Then I noticed one that was just a few weeks ago.

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I then noticed that there we other messages more recently, my boyfriend gave the guy his new phone number which he got 2 months ago and was looking to meet up with him again.

I have not brought this up with him yet and I do not know how to bring this up, I am so confused and hurt. I really need some advice on what to do, I am not against peoples sexuality or want to make him feel embarrassed about his sexuality. But I do not want to be with someone who is cheating or thinking about cheating on me with anyone (man/woman/or another gender).

How do I bring this up and what should I do about this?

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Old 12-11-2018, 09:32 PM   #2
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It might just be best to be honest about seeing this.
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Old 12-11-2018, 09:40 PM   #3
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He's selling himself by way of deception. There are no mitigating circumstances. Smack him upside the head with an aluminum bat.
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Old 12-11-2018, 10:19 PM   #4
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I would admit you saw it and end the relationship right then and there. You need tested for STDís.

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Old 12-11-2018, 10:47 PM   #5
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I think you know everything you need to know. Cut it off. If he asks why, just respond "you know why." and let him figure it out.
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Old 12-12-2018, 05:54 AM   #6
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End it right now. And immediately see you doctor to test for STD. There is nothing else to discuss.

You donít want him give embarassed? He is a pristitute selling himself for money and keeps it a secret from you and you worry about embarrassing him? If he is easily embarased type heíd not have sex for $200
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I wouldn't be concerned about the bisexuality. It's more the fact that he's a prostitute and that he has hidden it from you. I hope you were having safe sex. I don't really believe in ending things without giving a reason, so I would tell him what you saw and then break it off. And definitely get tested for STDs. By prostituting himself, he was putting you at risk as well.
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I agree with the other posters, ditch him for putting you at risk get yourself tested for std's as well

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Exactly, Down. I don't have anything against gay or bi people, but this could be a health issue for the SO. This is what comes of lying and sneaking. trouble for everyone involved.
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Yes, if you feel you need to confront him, then do, but please do get out of this relationship and get yourself tested... I agree with all of the above posters.
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