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Old 03-13-2018, 04:39 PM   #1
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My roommate texted me, "If I raise the rent by $60, would you be able to afford it?"

Rent was just raised a year ago, by a lot.

My roommate is 'agent' to my landlord, she collects my rent, and fills out forms.

Her eighteen year old daughter moved in six months ago. I suspect it is HER behind this, she has always hated me, though I have given her no reason to hate me. Very rudely accuses me of using her washcloth, or moving her washcloth, when someone else did. (We have a total of four, living in the house.)

Next my roommate facebook messaged me a quote, about pissing off roommates, and bringing bad energy into the house.

The only thing I can think of that I've done, I haven't kept my room too neat. I haven't been home on the days everyone cleans together. In fact, the three of them hang out as friends often, while I have my own separate set of friends.

I have decided to search for a new place to live. Quite the tedious process.

I feel hurt. My adult life I've been bullied by mean spirited people. My roommate used to stick up for me, saying she liked me. Not sure what changed.
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Old 03-13-2018, 04:57 PM   #2
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Hey Junerain. If you cannot afford it, will she insist on it anyway? Also, what was with the quote? Was it supposed to be funny? Was it supposed to be directed at you and serious? If you feel like you're in an environment you don't like and it feels hostile (I'd be bothered by someone assuming things about me too, like the washcloth thing), then it sounds like you're making the right decision to leave and find a place that is more suited to your needs and wishes! I would not want to live someplace with roommates who disliked me.
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The quote was mean spirited. I'm definitely in a hostile environment, here. I WILL move, the whole process is a lot, and takes time, though.
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I'm sorry you're dealing with a crappy living situation. It sounds like the best idea is to move out. It sucks when you can't be respected by fellow roommates. Just because you don't clean on the days they do or with them and just because you don't socialize with them doesn't give them the right to say you're bringing "bad energy" into the house. Honestly, they sound like bad energy to me. Good riddance! I hope you find a much happier place to live!!
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Thanks, golden_eve. A happier place to live sounds good, at this point.....
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I'm so sorry to read that you are going through this. She actually texted you instead of speaking with you face to face? And posted like that on fb also without speaking with you face to face? Low blow and bum deal. I really hope something else turns up for you!
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LMAO she texted a quote about bringing bad energy?? I had some passive aggressive roommates back in the day, but that takes the cake! Yeah, you don't need that in your life. No matter what you may or may not have done, it's their choice to be crappy about it rather than talking to you like adults.

I'm sorry you have to go through this until you find a new place.
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We have worked it out, and are getting along now. Thanks for everyone's thoughtfulness.
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