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I was in a store tonight and I thought that the employee there was pretty. I didn't end up buying anything, so I didn't even talk to her, but I definitely made eye contact with her several times. Honestly, I probably looked at her a few too many times (I hope she wasn't creeped out). Anyway, now I'm thinking about her and I want to go back there. Although, I don't know why I would/what my plan would be. It's a candy store, so I could easily afford to buy something in order to talk to her, but then what?

I'm 24 and I have had zero experience with women in my life (never had sex, never had a girlfriend, etc.). As a result, I have no confidence when talking to women and I wouldn't even know where to start in a situation like this. Honestly, I'm probably only thinking about her because I am so tired of being alone for so long, so I'll focus on any girl that I find remotely attractive.

I was thinking about going back tomorrow and seeing if she is there. But idk, maybe that's too soon, maybe she'll think I'm stalking her. Also, I've heard that women don't like being hit on while they're working, so maybe this isn't even appropriate idk. I've just never figured out how to meet women and every year that goes by, it seems more and more challenging. Any words of advice on how I should approach this situation would be appreciated.

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apologize to her for staring at her yesterday. admit it was wrong to upset her unintentionally because you were instantly mesmerized by her beauty.

if she responds positively ask her if you can treat her to meal to compensate for scaring her. if negatively leave the store forever.
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apologize to her for staring at her yesterday. admit it was wrong to upset her unintentionally because you were instantly mesmerized by her beauty.

if she responds positively ask her if you can treat her to meal to compensate for scaring her. if negatively leave the store forever.
Honestly, that is such a great way. OP, if she did catch you staring at her, definitely do this I feel like its such a clever way to ask someone out.

Make sure to dress good too!
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You can try a simple approach and start a casual conversation. Or maybe you can simply ask her fi she wants to go out for a coffee or something.
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Tell her you love candy - ask her for recommendations. If she’s attractive she’s probably used to compliments - wouldn’t worry about the stalking thing. Can’t tell you how many baristas I’ve fallen in love with from a distance. Pick a topic - chocolate? And ask questions - lots of questions. Smile 😊
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Don't obsess over the staring part. She wouldn't have noticed you staring unless she was looking at you too.

Go strike up a conversation - by buying candies at the store.
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I disagree. When a woman is at work, she is there to do her job. She is not there to get hit on. It’s EXTREMELY inappropriate. I really urge all guys to learn something from the conversations sparked by the #MeToo movement. Do NOT hit on women at work. Period. It makes us, as women, feel disrespected, scared, uncomfortable, and grossed out. Because she is a professional at work, she has no choice to buy politely smile and say “no thanks.” But, inside, she’s probably dying. And it probably happens to her ALL THE TIME because women get propositioned at work all the time, despite the fact that it’s SO inappropriate. If you want to date, join a dating app or go to dating-oriented meetup.com groups. Don’t focus on women who work at the stores you frequent.
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I'm in the 'don't hit on people at work' camp. It can be really awkward and creepy for the worker because they have to be nice and can't escape. Instead of going to the store today, I would find some kind of class or group event where everyone will be on equal footing and go with the intention of gaining confidence talking to others.
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Don't obsess over the staring part. She wouldn't have noticed you staring unless she was looking at you too...

Yeah, but she might have been looking only to make sure he wasn't trying to steal something.
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Leave her alone. There are more appropriate avenues to meet people that don't involve them pretty much being trapped and having to decide how to navigate your attention.
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