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Old 02-26-2018, 03:03 PM   #11
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I've been chatting online to a lady who is 47yrs old (I'm 30yr old male) and we get on really well.


We haven't met up yet but have been chatting for around three months now.


Just recently over a message she said that she is 'extremely fond of me' and in just about every message she sends she uses a mix of different emoji's such as winky face and smiling face.


I don't know what to make of this, would you think it means that she likes me as a friend or more than a friend?


I didn't challenge her on what she meant but we chat every day.


Thanks for any responses.
You’re leaving things open for some time.
I think you may need to work on what YOU want from a relationship with her, before assuming what she COULD mean
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Old 03-13-2018, 04:55 AM   #12
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You’re leaving things open for some time.
I think you may need to work on what YOU want from a relationship with her, before assuming what she COULD mean


I agree with you.


I think it could be to do with low self esteem issues perhaps which I need to work on.
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No you just need to think about what you want from your relationship
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Old 03-13-2018, 11:31 PM   #14
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I think it's fair to ask her what she meant. And, as someone who has done quite a bit of online dating and prefers when men make the first move (as far as taking things offline), I think you should ask her if she'd like to get coffee. What's the worst she can say? No? If she's talking to you over text as much as you say she is, I don't know that this will happen. And if it does, that's okay, too. At least you will have tried, and will know.
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That sounds to me like something a woman would say when she already sees limits to how far this relationship is going to go.

She finds you endearing. That's quite a nice compliment. But it doesn't suggest any romantic passion. If you're looking for a friend, you may have found a good one. However, if you're looking for romantic love - as in a life partner - you might want to keep looking.
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Have you thought of talking on the phone with her? Would be a good next step, for friendship or romance.
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Old 03-16-2018, 12:08 AM   #17
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Did you video chat with her???? Have you seen her in person - just checking wanna make sure she’s who she says she is..... if so ask what she likes about you and if you can get together. Dinner is good unless that’s not possible. I’d just make sure everything is legit.
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Exactly.

If things were plain and simple, cut and dry, where would be that rush of dopamine when we finally find out the object of our affection truly likes us in return? That rush of dopamine is important for the whole process; it keeps us from walking out the door when the object of our affection is, in another instance, being completely unreasonable and difficult.
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I've been chatting online to a lady who is 47yrs old (I'm 30yr old male) and we get on really well.


We haven't met up yet but have been chatting for around three months now.


Just recently over a message she said that she is 'extremely fond of me' and in just about every message she sends she uses a mix of different emoji's such as winky face and smiling face.


I don't know what to make of this, would you think it means that she likes me as a friend or more than a friend?


I didn't challenge her on what she meant but we chat every day.


Thanks for any responses.
Why don't you just ask her if she'd like to meet somewhere for coffee? A no pressure venue where you might find out more and you could take it from there; that's if she's within commuting distance.
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