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Old 10-16-2016, 10:13 AM   #21
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Also I should add that the last guy I saw is coming round to see me tonight and I hope he doesn't want sex because after admitting I'm not worth dating it's just friends or nothing. I don't have many friends so I can't afford to be picky. But I certainly can't be anything more than friends now. At least he was eventually honest. I'm more upset about the guy before and don't mind just being friends with this man. Although he has acted more like a boy. He is only 30, I will let him off. Right now I need friends so I'm willing to stay in touch with him but whether he will want to be if sex isn't happening I don't know. I might lose another friend tonight..
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Old 10-16-2016, 10:37 AM   #22
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Wow, and here I was, thinking I was too darned old-fashioned of a guy to even live in modern times...

Being a man, and looking around me I can see your point: You do have to wade through a sea of scum to find one of those good guys. It can be disheartening at a certain point.
I don't know what's best to do at this time, but part of me still knows never to give up completely. You can meet a decent guy when you least expect it...
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The guy never turned up anyway. He hardly ever does. At least I didn't have to have an awkward talk with him about not wanting sex. That might be why he never turned up. I need a friend but he is going a bit far with never turning up. I could go on but I think I'll only ever have one good friend who will always be honest with me. My ex is the only reliable man I know. When it comes to most people they just let you down. Today has been a ***** day.
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Old 10-16-2016, 04:44 PM   #24
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Would you consider female friends?
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Usually a guy wants a woman for sex if they suspect she will give them sex. That's why the old advice of not getting too intimate too soon can actually work. If he's interested in only sex, he won't wait. If he is interested in you for more than that, he will. You just have to watch for people who are manipulative and lie to get what they want. That's why it's so important to be true to yourself and your values and not be talked into anything if it feels like it's going too fast. If you want only sex too then of course that's fine. If not, it's probably best to wait until after you've dated for a while.
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@The O.P, sorry to hear that. Maybe you're meeting all the wrong men. Also, are you meeting them at bars, clubs, or even online? Those are some of the worst places to meet men I heard.

Anyways, I really think that this book by Sherry Argov will help you. It's called "Why Men Love Bitches". It's a tongue in cheek title meaning:

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H-of Herself

It's very insightful and hilarious! Men don't think like women. Doing certain things will only make them think that you aren't relationship material such as responding to their texts, emails, and calls right away. Men like the chase.

A lot of men tend to test women to see how "high" they'll jump and how far they can push you. And they will walk all over you if you let them. Also, appearance matters, but you'll always attract the wrong men if you show to much skin at first. Not saying that you do of course, that's just what the book says.

If you don't return a guy's texts, calls, or emails right away and wait a few days, he'll probably get back to YOU to see why you aren't responding to him like most women. They like the chase and women who are independent and not desperate for a relationship or marriage. Not that you are. Just read the book and you'll see what I mean.

Oh, and it sounds like that guy isn't ready for anything serious yet at all. If that's what you want, don't waste your time on him. You can do better than that. Don't settle. Look for better friends. Try meetup.com.
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Oh, and try singles meetups on meetup.com. It's free to join.
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Would you consider female friends?
Yes, but most women my age have families and partners to be with and don't have time for me or don't want to be friends because they know me in a professional capacity. At my work I have female bosses but they don't have mental health issues so wouldn't socialise with me. Also other girls are a lot younger and have their own friends.
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@The O.P, sorry to hear that. Maybe you're meeting all the wrong men. Also, are you meeting them at bars, clubs, or even online? Those are some of the worst places to meet men I heard.

Anyways, I really think that this book by Sherry Argov will help you. It's called "Why Men Love Bitches". It's a tongue in cheek title meaning:

B-Babe

I-In

T-Total

C-Control

H-of Herself

It's very insightful and hilarious! Men don't think like women. Doing certain things will only make them think that you aren't relationship material such as responding to their texts, emails, and calls right away. Men like the chase.

A lot of men tend to test women to see how "high" they'll jump and how far they can push you. And they will walk all over you if you let them. Also, appearance matters, but you'll always attract the wrong men if you show to much skin at first. Not saying that you do of course, that's just what the book says.

If you don't return a guy's texts, calls, or emails right away and wait a few days, he'll probably get back to YOU to see why you aren't responding to him like most women. They like the chase and women who are independent and not desperate for a relationship or marriage. Not that you are. Just read the book and you'll see what I mean.

Oh, and it sounds like that guy isn't ready for anything serious yet at all. If that's what you want, don't waste your time on him. You can do better than that. Don't settle. Look for better friends. Try meetup.com.
It's friends I'm after. I don't think that guy will be interested in being a friend though. But he doesn't want to date. He is wasting my time really. I didn't text him back last night after he called off. He offered to come up tonight but I don't see the point in agreeing as he won't come.

I don't feel comfortable meeting people on the internet. I met the other guy that way and I enjoyed it at the time but he just used me.I wouldn't do it again. Having attachment to people on the internet is not a good idea.

I still think a dog is best.
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Yes, but most women my age have families and partners to be with and don't have time for me or don't want to be friends because they know me in a professional capacity. At my work I have female bosses but they don't have mental health issues so wouldn't socialise with me. Also other girls are a lot younger and have their own friends.


How do you know MOST women wont have time for you and what does your job have to do with it? (If I may ask)



Also you don't have to only hang out with people who have MH issues, is there a specific reason you say this about your bosses? Like have they said "You're MI and I refuse to go out and have drinks with you"...?
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