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I've had a similar issue in therapy. I will say that my T was delighted to be able to do something simple and practical to make me feel more comfortable. For a long time he'd ask at the start of every session, "Is my chair okay here?" So if any part of you thinks you will make him uncomfortable by saying something, I don't think so.
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The last session we had I found difficult to concentrate as something was completely different about her room. I kept wondering if it was the art but I concluded it wasn't that. Still, I was really bothered and my mind kept drifting back to the wall again and again. Finally I told her, in a humorous tone, "We can't continue until I know what is different about the room." We shared a good laugh. It turned out all that was different was a lamp because she had broken the one that originally sat there. We kind of dispensed with what we were talking about and began discussing instead how the building of an atmosphere in a space will lend it a general feeling. She said not everyone is comfortable in her room and she has several clients (mostly quite religious people who don't appreciate the earthy 'tone' of the room) she will use a different office to meet them in. She told me she was moving offices actually; that the painters were coming in before my next visit. She even asked if one of my paintings would be for sale. Nice.
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My therapist is working for me. If he does something that makes me feel uncomfortable I definitely will tell him about it. I would also ask why the change ? If he thinks it will help somehow than Iíll give it a try. I canít forget why Iím there and not let little things throw me off.
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I've had a similar issue in therapy. I will say that my T was delighted to be able to do something simple and practical to make me feel more comfortable. For a long time he'd ask at the start of every session, "Is my chair okay here?" So if any part of you thinks you will make him uncomfortable by saying something, I don't think so.
i wish my T would ask that. . .
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My T is moving offices. Actually has moved offices in the same building. She got all new furniture for the new office. She still has her lease of the old office. Because of the struggles we are currently going through and my struggles with moves, we are still meeting in her old space. I am the only one she meets there. A week ago Thursday I asked to look at the new office. I absolutely hate the layout and the furniture. I don't know what I'm going to do once we do move. I'm going to try to do part sessions in the new space starting next week. This is my idea not hers. I am not looking forward to it at all.

So yeah, these types of things can be have a big impact. I hope you are able to let your T know that the new location is too uncomfortable for you.
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i wish my T would ask that. . .
First I had to ask him to move back his chair, then he would ask me. You gotta say something first, I think.
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First I had to ask him to move back his chair, then he would ask me. You gotta say something first, I think.
Ok, ill try to say something next week. Thanks for your insights and help.
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Ok, ill try to say something next week. Thanks for your insights and help.
You can do it. You can practice saying something as simple as possible, like "I feel uncomfortable at the distance between us. Can you move your chair back?" or you can write it on a piece of paper and hand it over when you walk in.

Do you usually have trouble telling people how you feel and/or asking for something? It's a good opportunity to practice. Your T will probably love the fact that you're asking.
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