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Old 03-18-2019, 11:18 PM #21
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I wrote a really detailed email to my T about it all. Iím so nervous waiting to hear back now.
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I hope she responds in a helpful way.
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Glad you shared your feelings in detail with your T. I also hope she responds well.
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She didnít really respond, so I wrote again, fully detailing my feelings even more. Iím so nervous now that Iíve sent it. Maybe I shouldíve just left it alone and not rocked the boat. Iím really scared now.
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She didnít really respond, so I wrote again, fully detailing my feelings even more. Iím so nervous now that Iíve sent it. Maybe I shouldíve just left it alone and not rocked the boat. Iím really scared now.
Many T's won't respond in great details through email as to try to keep things in the office and to help keep boundaries. I hope you are able to discuss the issue further at your next session.
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She is okay with my sending emails and emailing generally. She knows how much it helps me. Iím just worried she wonít be happy with the content of this email, with the feelings I shared.
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I don't think her non reply indicates that she is upset or anything, but probably that there is a lot to respond to, too much for email. Can you wait until session to bring it up and discuss?
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Thanks, Anne. Yes, Iím trying to hold on until I see her. At first when I sent the email, I felt a huge relief just to have confessed everything to her and gotten it off my chest. But now of course Iím filled with regret and fears.
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I know itís always difficult to tell a T how these changes effect you but I think it is a very important part of the process. Let us know how it goes.
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That feeing of waiting for a return email is nerve-wracking. I hope she responds , or that your session is soon. It does sound like you opened up and told her true feelings, and that is good.
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