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Old 03-20-2019, 08:47 PM #961
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Couch opinion wanted... Murky t boundary situation.

My anxiety has been bad, but I have always had anxiety about traveling. I have to travel with my daughter this weekend for a dance competition about 3hrs away. Tons of anxiety all around about traveling, but just also have tons of anxiety in general constantly worry about terrible things happening. Just not good all around. T and I were talking about it today and how I was worried about having panic Attack all weekend while we are at this event.

T then mentioned well he would be there for most of the weekend (I knew he would be). but while we are at these functions you are not my t you just the dad of another kid who dances with my kid. And he said yes, but if you felt like you needed to talk because my anxiety was out of control I could. And laid it all on me.. if I felt comfortable I could reach out.

Likely I won’t need that, but I also feel like I want a plan for if my anxiety is that bad this weekend. I want to know how I feel about it now.. and not in the midst of anxiety. On one hand I love how open he was to me asking for help from him. BUT- I think also, we have done so great with our dual relationship and clearly setting up boundaries, that I don’t want to ruin that. Though, I don’t think he would have offered if he thought I would some how take advantage from
Now on. Ultimately I know it is my decision, but I also want to know if anybody else thinks this maybe be getting close to really blurring the boundaries?
I don’t think so, mainly because you have a history of setting clear boundaries with each other. My experience of blurring boundaries personally and what I read on here is it’s most likely to happen when boundaries aren’t discussed or carefully considered at all, and that boundaries are clearest and least likely to blur when they’re discussed and thought about.
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I wouldn’t talk to my T about my anxiety at something like that. If I was having a hard time I might go stand near him or ask for a hug but I wouldn’t talk to him much. I had a T that opened that door with me once and then we had a misunderstanding and she blew up on me. We were never able to fix the T/client relationship... although, in all fairness she made a better friend anyway.
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Crud... uh, fellow couchies? Anyone sitting on a set of keys? Could you check between the cushions next to you? Came home from the grocery store and plopped down to check in and can’t find my keys. Checked all the usual places... coat pocket, pants, fridge, pantry, bags, car, bathroom, freezer... not necessarily in that order. ugh... can’t believe I lost them again...
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There was just a downpour of hail where I'm at. Was only sprinkling before. The rain today prevented us from doing the real estate caravan. We need our house to sell!

And I just realized that if my sister doesn't get her act together, I may never see my nieces again We already don't qualify for foster. We won't qualify for adoption because my H doesn't have a job. And he's trying real hard to find one. This situation is just so depressing for me. Wish they had "auntie" rights. Do my parents lose their grandparents rights if the girls get adopted?
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Found them! they were under the oranges. I also found three cats (that weren’t lost), an extra set of house keys, two flashlights and an unopened candy bar.
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There was just a downpour of hail where I'm at. Was only sprinkling before. The rain today prevented us from doing the real estate caravan. We need our house to sell!

And I just realized that if my sister doesn't get her act together, I may never see my nieces again We already don't qualify for foster. We won't qualify for adoption because my H doesn't have a job. And he's trying real hard to find one. This situation is just so depressing for me. Wish they had "auntie" rights. Do my parents lose their grandparents rights if the girls get adopted?

I am so sorry, it just seems to be non stop for you right now. Typically in the US family or people the kids have a relationship with are given the first chance to foster/adopt/kinship care. If there are not any of those available they typically go into regular foster care and if parental rights are terminated they are placed for adoption. The good news is that all of this takes some time so maybe by the time they would be available for an adoptive home you may be in your new place. Most of the time adoptions out of the foster care system are “closed” meaning that no one in the biological family has contact with the kids. There are exceptions to every rule though. I adopted my son from the foster care system and then found his birth family and invited them to continue to be a part of his life.
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Omers, if it helps...

I searched EVERYWHERE for my work keys yesterday. I couldn't find them anywhere....coat pockets, jeans pockets, counters, stuff drawer, work bag, backup work bag, NOWHERE.

This morning, I looked on the key hook. You know, where the keys go?
Someone helpful had hung them up for me.

Glad you found your keys.
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Found them! they were under the oranges. I also found three cats (that weren’t lost), an extra set of house keys, two flashlights and an unopened candy bar.
Just woke up, read 'they were under the organs'. Felt like 'maybe this place is getting too weird for me'. Glad you don't have organs standing around (although I can't tell for sure of course :P)!
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Session in about an hour. Still no closer to working out what I actually need to say.
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Just woke up, read 'they were under the organs'. Felt like 'maybe this place is getting too weird for me'. Glad you don't have organs standing around (although I can't tell for sure of course :P)!
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They could have fallen under the pipe organ too, less wired but still weird. Either way I will go put another pot of tea/coffee on for us couchies as it sounds like we may need it!
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