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Old 02-12-2019, 04:03 PM   #1
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Has your therapist ever forgotten your name? My has done a handful of times before. Iíve mainly put it down to a momentary blip in memory. Today my T forgot my name again and looked at me for a few seconds whilst I entered the office as if trying to think who they had in front of them. I have been with this T for a few years now.
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Not exactly, but my T called me by my last name in session yesterday. TBH my last name is sometimes used as a first name, so it's sort of understandable, however, it is still irritating. I'm sorry that happened to you Glowworm80. HUGS Kit
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LOL! He was constantly calling me Carol (my name is Chris). It was a running joke with us. I started calling him Stewie (not his name). LOL! It actually wasn't constantly, but semi-regularly and I was always "Carol". His explanation was that I reminded him of someone he knew by that name (I assumed a former client but honestly don't know). It honestly didn't bother me much. I have always been crap with names myself, even sometimes with people I've known for a long time, so I guess I empathize. I also frequently get the "Haven't we met before?" or "Are you ____?" from people. I must have a doppelganger out there somewhere. My mother used to get those questions too. Hmm.
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Today my T forgot my name again and looked at me for a few seconds whilst I entered the office as if trying to think who they had in front of them. I have been with this T for a few years now.
Did he admit he forgot your name, or is this your interpretation? Did you ask him what his look meant? Is it possible you entered his office in a way that startled him or caused him to give a certain look? I just think it's unlikely at the beginning of session when he likely looked at his schedule to see who was on his schedule.

I thought you meant he tried to say your name in the middle of a sentence or something. But I've found I'm wrong about some of my T's "looks," so much so that now I just say when he has a look, "what's that look about??"
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Did he admit he forgot your name, or is this your interpretation? Did you ask him what his look meant? Is it possible you entered his office in a way that startled him or caused him to give a certain look? I just think it's unlikely at the beginning of session when he likely looked at his schedule to see who was on his schedule.

I thought you meant he tried to say your name in the middle of a sentence or something. But I've found I'm wrong about some of my T's "looks," so much so that now I just say when he has a look, "what's that look about??"
I didnít startled him. I donít think he doesnít remember me or anything like that it was just strange. I did ask what the look meant and he said Ďnothing I am just thinkingí it was Ďhello....pause (as if thinking for 2-3 seconds)...then my name ... and then went to sit down. Itís not a huge deal just made me wondering if other Ts forget names much. Itís likely he has a momentary block or his mind was elsewhere.
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No but for like the entire first year, I was convinced he didnít know my name because he didnít say it ever. Then he started saying my name every once it a while but always pronounced it wrong. He finally has it right now Has T ever forgotten your name?
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I find the attached image to be very true. The mother calls me by my sister's name more often than anything else. I have also been called my father's name and the dog's name. Makes it hard to take it personally when anyone else gets it wrong. But yes, the therapist has called me by C's name and also has referred to me as Savannah.
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Something to consider. I have a diagnosed mild cognitive impairment. There are people I have literally seen and worked with on a daily basis for over 3 yrs that I suddenly cannot remember their name. What you described about your T looking at you for a moment like they were trying to figure out who you were hit me because I could immediately see myself in front of someone I absolutely know and just can't remember their name. There may be a very good reason this happens that has nothing to do with you at all.
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Has your therapist ever forgotten your name? My has done a handful of times before. Iíve mainly put it down to a momentary blip in memory. Today my T forgot my name again and looked at me for a few seconds whilst I entered the office as if trying to think who they had in front of them. I have been with this T for a few years now.
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I didnít startled him. I donít think he doesnít remember me or anything like that it was just strange. I did ask what the look meant and he said Ďnothing I am just thinkingí it was Ďhello....pause (as if thinking for 2-3 seconds)...then my name ... and then went to sit down. Itís not a huge deal just made me wondering if other Ts forget names much. Itís likely he has a momentary block or his mind was elsewhere.
Why not accept what he said at face value? If I was distracted by my internal thoughts, it might take me a few seconds before I could switch them off and say someone's name. I think it's your interpretation that he "forgot" your name, as opposed to he simply paused before he said it, because his mind was elsewhere before you entered. And even if he "forgot" it, I don't consider a 2 or 3 second "forget" an actual forgetting. Forgetting someone's name is being unable to recall it for some length of time, like saying "hello . . . . ." and then shaking one's head as if to dislodge the memory or snapping your fingers trying to remember.

I think it is common to misinterpret what people say, and it has helped me with T in the past to ask him directly as a way of checking my perceptions. Usually they are wrong. I don't think the point is about being right or wrong, but understanding that interpreting something in the most negative way possible does impact the way you relate to someone. Or how you feel about yourself, which in this case sounds like it fits some internal schema that you are in fact "forgettable," hence you leap to confirm your belief with "evidence."

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