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Old 02-14-2019, 03:55 AM   #21
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Old 02-14-2019, 04:25 AM   #22
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Anytime something big hits in the life outside the relationship, for bad and good, the relationship can fail, grow or change. Like if the T gets a horrible health DX or even overfill her practice. . .
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My T is kind and empathetic and neither one of us is ďseriously crazyĒ yet I go through phases of feeling distant from him. Iím never sure if itís because weíre not a good fit or if itís because I have a habit of emotionally distancing people. Will the relationship fail because of this dynamic? Hard to tell.
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I believe that 2 people can just be not comparable. On my first appointment she told me that if at any point either of us felt like the other wasn't a good fit, then we needed to be honest with the other. If we were not a good for the therapeutic relationship wouldn't work. We ended up being a great fit and I think we knew it in that first appointment.

I sometimes wonder if Emdr T are a good fit. When I am in her office I feel like we are and doing great work. I have told her things I never told anybody else because of opening myself up to being vulnerable. After I leave I wonder if we are so comparable. I realize, though, that I am likely wanting her to be like T and that just won't happen with anybody. So I keep plugging away
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I think itís possible.

I still have a lot of love for my old therapist and know we both tried hard. Sometimes the dynamics just donít work.
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