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Old 01-13-2019, 09:06 PM   #1
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Wondering if I can get some perspective. My 20 year old son went to therapy for a few months wile in middle school, due to feeling suicidal thoughts. After a few months they ended therapy as he was doing better and no longer needed it.

Today he asked me for some help. He said he needs to go to therapy again. While he wont act on it he has been having passive SU thoughts. I gave him the previous counselors name and number. Now I wonder if after all this time he should return to the same T or if he would benefit from somebody new. Any thoughts?
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Old 01-13-2019, 10:01 PM   #2
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Why don't you ask his preference?
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Old 01-13-2019, 10:13 PM   #3
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He doesnt know what he wants. He isnt talking much. All he is saying is that he is safe, there is a lot going on, he is depressed and needs to talk to somebody. Based upon his research he doesnt believe intidepressents. Oh and he doesnt want me to tell anybody including his dad (my husband) or my best friend who he knows I talk about most things with. He considers her like a second mom.
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Well, if he's 20 and last saw the therapist in middle school, they might not still be in the area, practicing, have availability or even work with adults. I'm unclear who he gave the previous therapist's name to, but doing that would seem to indicate he is interested in working with him again. Maybe start there and see if that's even possible.
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Can you contact the counselor and see what they think? If nothing else they may be able to give a referral.

It is good that your son feels he can confide in you and ask you for help.
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Seeing as he's not sure what he wants, I would ask him this one question: When you were in therapy the first time, did it help with the suicidal thoughts?
If he answers yes, I see no reason why he couldn't see the same therapist. If he says no or not sure, then you should look for a different therapist.
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Well, if he's 20 and last saw the therapist in middle school, they might not still be in the area, practicing, have availability or even work with adults. I'm unclear who he gave the previous therapist's name to, but doing that would seem to indicate he is interested in working with him again. Maybe start there and see if that's even possible.
I know he is still practicing and seeing adults. He is on psychology today. He retired a few years ago and hated it do returned to the state and reopened his practice.....he was good friends and had the office next to my T.
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Well, if he's 20 and last saw the therapist in middle school, they might not still be in the area, practicing, have availability or even work with adults. I'm unclear who he gave the previous therapist's name to, but doing that would seem to indicate he is interested in working with him again. Maybe start there and see if that's even possible.
Darn typos/auto correct..sorry I fixed the original post. I gave my son the name and number of his previous T.
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Can you contact the counselor and see what they think? If nothing else they may be able to give a referral.

It is good that your son feels he can confide in you and ask you for help.
I will see tomorrow if my son will give me more information

I feel very fortunate to have 3 kids who come to me first when they are struggling.
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Since he doesn't know what he wants, it doesn't matter where he starts. He can start with his old T and see how it goes. If he doesn't like it, he and you can find someone else. May be the previous T or your T could recommend someone.
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