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Old 12-17-2018, 01:34 PM   #1
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Ugh. I know the isn't an answer to this but I am frustrated and need to vent.

I see Emdr T on Tuesdays She sees clients Tuesday-thursday. She mentioned 2 weeks ago that she would be on vacation all Christmas week and would be back the day after new years. Since she felt bad that her Tuesday clients would not see her for two weeks straight she was considering seeing them that Friday. She needed to check with her husband to make sure her husband would be home to care for their 3yo. I get that he is a college professor and normally works on Fridays but would be on break. Last week she said she asked him and he didn't really give her an answer. Today she sent me an appointment reminder for tomorrow. I asked her the plans for the week of new years. She said she doesnt she know asked again but he has been so caught up with work stressors that he still hasn't answered. However she texted him again.

Now granted it is still a couple weeks away but I need to plan. Do I need to white knuckle my way through the holidays for 2 weeks or 1? Part of if my frustration is that T could just decide on a whim when she would see people and had nobody to worry about checking with.

If he can't/doesn't want to I wish he would say so. Ugh..

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Old 12-17-2018, 02:40 PM   #2
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I guess plan for 2 and be pleasantly surprised if it's 1. But it's **** - I feel you. Husband prob can't see what the urgency is....
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Old 12-17-2018, 04:03 PM   #4
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I guess plan for 2 and be pleasantly surprised if it's 1. But it's **** - I feel you. Husband prob can't see what the urgency is....
I think that is what I will do. Last week she told me he said he thinks he could be home. I cant imagine not being able to give a yes or no answer. I cant be the only client this us an issue for. Maybe I am just a whole lot needier than the rest of her clients.
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Who knows what is going on in their relationship- he might want family time but she's working so he's being difficult. But it defo is not you. I would want to know too and like 3 weeks ago!
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Who knows what is going on in their relationship- he might want family time but she's working so he's being difficult. But it defo is not you. I would want to know too and like 3 weeks ago!

All true...but he will be on almost 1 month vacation. He teaches where my son attends college so that I know. That being said. I understand wanting family time. I think I am going to plan to have 2 weeks without seeing her and if it changes awesome...if not I will deal
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I think he is being a bit of an ***, personally. Grades will have already been due, so it's not like he needs to be working.
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I think he is being a bit of an ***, personally. Grades will have already been due, so it's not like he needs to be working.
I agree. I have been thinking though maybe he has a plan for that day which is supposed to be a surprise and he doesn't want to be a jerk and say no I wont take care of our child that day.
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I agree. I have been thinking though maybe he has a plan for that day which is supposed to be a surprise and he doesn't want to be a jerk and say no I wont take care of our child that day.
You have quite the imagination. If that was the case, I think he would just make up a lie about where he needed to be.

I hope he removes his head from his backside and/or your therapist demands an answer from him in your favor.
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You have quite the imagination. If that was the case, I think he would just make up a lie about where he needed to be.

I hope he removes his head from his backside and/or your therapist demands an answer from him in your favor.
I have been trying to think of alternatives to him being a jerk because she seems to be the total opposite. Honestly, I wouldn't have allowed my husband to blow me off. I would have told him if he isnt available to do it just say so.
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