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I wont get into the session details much because it's personal but I had my final session with t. He ended up giving me TWO things that had meaning to us. He put them in a box and walked them to my car with me where we had our final hug.

I did pretty well... I sobbed the whole ride home but in session itself, very minimal tears. I wanted to focus on laughs and just casual stuff. We played a game and he agreed to a pic with me and my dog.

I had brought something I got specially made for my dog who passed but forgot to show him so I texted him after and he didn't reply until almost 9pm which is not like him at all... but I'm glad he did. He still seems very open to meeting up in 2 years and happily before if we cross paths, which is unlikely since we live so far away.

Something super odd though... not many of you know... but my mom is, well ******. She's never been kind or supportive to me and she randomly called me to night and said "How are you doing?" it took my by surprise (omg she is human!)
I told her I was ok and then she said "Did he ask you to keep in contact?" I said "No, there's rules. I'm not allowed to" and she replied with "Not even as friends? That's BS!" Totally amazing for 2 reasons... 1-- she has long FREAKED out at the idea of me even being friends with men... and now she was suggesting it and 2-- she's totally with me on my views of therapy rules.

All of that was weird, it made me feel like maybe I will have a weird and unexpected support through this.

I'm still really sad, I'm not sure it's hit me yet completely. I haven't deleted him from my phone but his phone, since its a work phone, is being turned in tomorrow. Just wanted to post here since many of you knew today was my day from hell... I probably wont be posting here much anymore though, without therapy to even talk about, but I will pop in from time to time to see what everyone else is up to.
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My leaving t this past summer was also sudden and unexpected, but even seeing him just once a week as i had been at the end, it took me a couple of months to adjust to the lack, then a few more months to develop a new pattern of being. I always felt like i was on the end of a game of crack-the-whip on skates.

Eta - so just saying, i dont think you just STOP being a client. Ts say, "once a client, always a client" and i think that applies to n+1 - starting immediately is important too.
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A lot of people here aren't in therapy and still get support. You're always welcome here.
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DP, I'm so sorry. This has to be truly difficult for you! But I'm kinda glad about your mum. Maybe there's a chance that your relationship will improve.
Anyway I'll also miss you here! I hope you will come back here. I liked your posts.
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I think posting here about post therapy feelings is just as important.
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DP, I'm so sorry. This has to be truly difficult for you! But I'm kinda glad about your mum. Maybe there's a chance that your relationship will improve.
Anyway I'll also miss you here! I hope you will come back here. I liked your posts.
Not likely. I'm sure she will always be a narcissistic person, but she has random times when she seems decent or human. I mean, every day this week before today, we got into screaming matches. I'm just glad that she found some small compassion in her to at least try to be kind for a moment.

I laugh because she feels the same as I do about many of the therapy rules and she didn't even know there was rules. Just kinda goes to show you, how silly even regular folks think it is sometimes. She isn't the first person to say something similar to me either.




As for those saying I can still post, well I know that. I just personally don't feel up to posting much anymore without stories to share. I wont be going to a new T. I find it incredibly hard, especially with the holidays, to read about other people who still have a T. So we will see. I'll be around, just not as much.
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Not likely. I'm sure she will always be a narcissistic person, but she has random times when she seems decent or human. I mean, every day this week before today, we got into screaming matches. I'm just glad that she found some small compassion in her to at least try to be kind for a moment.

I laugh because she feels the same as I do about many of the therapy rules and she didn't even know there was rules. Just kinda goes to show you, how silly even regular folks think it is sometimes. She isn't the first person to say something similar to me either.




As for those saying I can still post, well I know that. I just personally don't feel up to posting much anymore without stories to share. I wont be going to a new T. I find it incredibly hard, especially with the holidays, to read about other people who still have a T. So we will see. I'll be around, just not as much.
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sorry it's come to an end... but it sounds like it went well
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Because it is, in this case, there is no rule about it, he even said that, it's just his own thing he goes by for all professional jobs.

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Well as can be considering. Now to get used to not having him in my life every week....
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Speaking of triggers - first Tuesday of the month, at 1 pm, they test the emergency alarm system and sound all the alarms in the city and the state. Well guess who has been in t's office at that time every month for the past i dont know how many years?

So now for the past six months, the sirens sounds, and no matter what heinous thing Victor is doing on The Young and The Restless, all of a sudden in my mind there is t looking at me with his placido domingo face
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