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Old 12-12-2018, 01:13 AM   #11
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Could your therapist do these things for all his clients on a weekly basis? The reality of therapy is that clients will always have many needs, it is not the therapist's job to meet all of them. If your life depends on whether you see your therapist on a specific occasion, I think something is being mismanaged.

I will dip out now because this boundary stuff makes me angry.
Well, my father doesn't die on a weekly basis and I don't have a first trauma anniversary every week, and I doubt most of his clients have those things happen on a weekly basis either, so your argument is kind of spurious. My therapist hasn't breached any boundaries. I really don't need your judgement.
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Old 12-12-2018, 02:08 AM   #12
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I would never do this as a therapist. Sorry, but that was a bad decision on your therapist's part.

First of all, it was not a medical emergency. You have some health issues and you got a recommendation from her to see a specific doctor, that's fine. But there was no need to do it exactly on that day and there was certainly no need for her to take you there. I understand that you don't drive, but you manage your life somehow. I assume, there had never been a need for her to give you a ride before. So why now after the last session?

And, it's completely unacceptable to do this kind of a favor to a client at the expense of another client. If that client knows the real reason why your therapist was late for that session, they have every right to be upset and angry about it.

Also, the last session should have some sense of closure. It's the time to say good bye, basically. Taking a client to some doctor's office and then calling them to ask how it went doesn't create a sense of closure IMO.

Sorry, if this feels like a cold shower. I understand your excitement and I am not blaming you for feeling how you feel. It does feel fantastic to be cared for in such a way by a therapist, so there is nothing wrong with how you feel. But your therapist should've handled the last session differently. She crossed the boundary. Not every boundary crossing is necessarily unethical, and this one was not, but it was definitely a bad judgment.

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How do you know it was at the expense of another client!?
I have no idea when T sees other clients.
But I agree with sorry oozit, At the expense of another client isn't professional.
My T has in the past offered to accompany me to a Dr. But she would have done it in her own time.
I'm sure your pretty excited at the attention. But it's sad it's at another's expense.
Sounds like sibling rivalry being played out.
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That is a lovely way for your therapist to say a healing goodbye, and to show she really cares about you.
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Old 12-12-2018, 03:44 AM   #15
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Many times he did, I truly believed I mattered to him... but now that he's leaving, I'm re-thinking everything. I can't help but see it all as only out of pity.
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Old 12-12-2018, 04:37 AM   #16
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yes many times...
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the biggest ones for me was when he drove me 1.5 hours to a large city to sit with me during my lawsuit mediation all day. (the lawsuit against my former t)

and then flying with me to another state in NE USA for a 4 day Hearing Voices group facilitator training
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I don't see this much different from the other client's perspective than a T going over session time with one client and then starting the next late. And at least what the T did was useful to OP. I would see repetitive above and beyond behavior worrisome but one time, in a crisis situation? Personally, if I were the next client and knew why the T was late, I would completely understand and would not be upset at all. If the T was late regularly, then I would be frustrated for not respecting my time.
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OPI am glad you had a good closure session and feel at peace.
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OP, I'm glad that your T showed care for you.
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