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I'm so glad she liked it imnotbroken! Kit
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I gave my T his gift this morning. He was very grateful. I was most pleased with what I wrote in the card. The wine was just extra.
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This morning her secretary called me and said that one person wouldn't be able to make it to their session, and asked me if I wanted to come then. I said yes, and I did.

Just came back from the session, and I gave her the oven mittens.

As I was waiting for her, there was this kid in the waiting room, along with his mother. The mom was also carrying something in a gift bag. The little boy's T came out before mine did, and I watched as he gave her a box of chocolates. Then I started questioning my gift, feeling like a little kid giving their preschool teacher a gift to be acknowledged.

Right about then, my T comes out and I give her my bag, and I immediately express my feelings of embarrassment. I told her exactly this, "Now I feel like a little kid giving you a present to obtain your approval". She said, "Oh, don't you feel like that. Thanks!" She complimented the bag, I said it was a bit extravagant. Once we were inside her office, she opened the bag (with some difficulty, I must point out) and said, "Oh, these are cute! Thank you!! I love Christmas-decorated things!" then we moved on to the session.

Oh well, see you January 15th, T. Have a good break!
Yay! I'm glad it went well!!!
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I added a small gift card.It's in the shape of a bookmark, so would go with the reading theme. I know it sounds OTT but it just felt right to me.
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I added a small gift card.It's in the shape of a bookmark, so would go with the reading theme. I know it sounds OTT but it just felt right to me.
Sounds nice.
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I am giving my T Freudian Slippers (house shoes that look like a cartoon Freud). He has a really corny sense of humor, so I think he will laugh. Last year I gave him baked goods.

I am really glad she liked your Christmas gift. It sounds like you have a good relationship.
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Somehow I never gave holiday gifts to former T, but I have to current T. I think in part because it's easier to come up with ideas for a female T. After spending so many years overseas, I've collected a lot of little gifts, so I'll choose something from my stash.
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I just today mailed former T a handmade Christmas card because I made her one every year. Even though she's not my T anymore, I wanted to send her one. I wondered if she thought she wasn't going to get one. Kit
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I mailed my T her Christmas present. As some of you know, she is out on medical leave. So, anyway, she said *I* could text her as much as I want, but she would not answer every text. That hurt at first, but I understand why she had to do that. But, back to the gift?! I sort of expected her to reach out and say "thank you," but she didn't. Then I thought maybe it got lost in the mail. Either way, I had to know. We had talked about this gift for a few weeks before she went out on medical leave (She had surgery in mid-November.), but I don't know if she thought I would send it to her. So, finally, a little scared, I texted her and asked her if she received a package from me, and she said, "Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]." I felt relieved, happy, and a little annoyed, all at the same time. I'm glad the package got to her. I'm happy because of the nature of the gift (Don't want to say details here), but I'm annoyed because I had to ask her if she got it. Shouldn't she have just started a text to me, "Cool, thank you for the lovely gift." And maybe some other sentiment? December is an extremely hard month for me, for a variety of reasons, and she knows that, and all she could say was,
"Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]?" My feelings are a little hurt. Comments?
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I mailed my T her Christmas present. As some of you know, she is out on medical leave. So, anyway, she said *I* could text her as much as I want, but she would not answer every text. That hurt at first, but I understand why she had to do that. But, back to the gift?! I sort of expected her to reach out and say "thank you," but she didn't. Then I thought maybe it got lost in the mail. Either way, I had to know. We had talked about this gift for a few weeks before she went out on medical leave (She had surgery in mid-November.), but I don't know if she thought I would send it to her. So, finally, a little scared, I texted her and asked her if she received a package from me, and she said, "Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]." I felt relieved, happy, and a little annoyed, all at the same time. I'm glad the package got to her. I'm happy because of the nature of the gift (Don't want to say details here), but I'm annoyed because I had to ask her if she got it. Shouldn't she have just started a text to me, "Cool, thank you for the lovely gift." And maybe some other sentiment? December is an extremely hard month for me, for a variety of reasons, and she knows that, and all she could say was,
"Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]?" My feelings are a little hurt. Comments?

I think the way you feel is perfectly normal. The very first gift I gave R he didn't mention it which lead to a loooooong rupture.It wasn't about being thanked, but just acknowledged. I tend to be an anxious person. I'd worry that it might not have arrived too.
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