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Old 07-14-2018, 12:18 AM   #1
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Iím just wondering - if anyone has done inner child work with their therapist - what has doing that kind of work looked like and entailed? My T and I are starting to edge towards it and I have no idea what to expect or what it is supposed to encompass. I would appreciate any info at all- like what would actually happen during the session, what the goal is, how it works, etc.
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Old 07-14-2018, 02:59 AM   #2
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John Bradshaw has a old series available on youtube called "homecoming". I cried just watching it, but haven't finished it. Each episode is an hour long.
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working on how to comfort the inner child during times of distress. taking care of the child parts needs. t "parented" it to a healthy enough state... the rest of the work is on me now... strengthening my healthy adult and redirecting my parent part to be more compassionate and nurturing rather than critical and abusive
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It's nice to have your therapist guide you through it.

My T wrote "inner child work" on a post it, handed it to me, and said "Google this and try it out." The next week I came in and said, "I'm not sure what I learned," and she said, "Oh, okay, that's fine, we don't have to do that" as if she were kind of embarrassed, and we never talked about it again. I had stuff to tell her about it, but she kind of shut it down. So I can't speak from much experience except to say, good luck & I'm glad your T will be with you in the process.
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I did some of that with ex-t. I think it was pretty helpful, I went from in the very beginning of it telling her of my inner little Artie that I hated her and wanted her to go away.
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I learned over time to show that young wounded inner child compassion, and I specifically did things 'for' or 'with' her, things I know I liked when I was little. Like 'we' went swimming and danced in the water cuz no one else was at the pool haha, also I brought colored pencils to work and drew/colored flowers between calls sometimes, and then later we did some work with 15 (what I call my inner teenager) and I found that she really likes reading young adult fiction - I'm still reading it to this day, I have about 150 free ebooks downloaded on my tablet and I read every day on my lunch break. This delights my stubborn inner teenager no end. I did a lot of dream work with ex-t and most of the 'inner child' work we did was around dreams where I was either young, or in the dreams i was back in my childhood home as an observer. We did a lot (a lot-a lot) of talking about my childhood as well.
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I learned how to be the 'good enough mother' to my own inner little girl. It's still very much a work in progress I have to remind myself of it when I find myself reacting from that wounded little girl part of me.
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Thank you so much for the comments, everyone. This is really helping me. Just wondering, has anyoneís therapist ever actually talked to their little girl part? Is that a typical part of the work?
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Unfortunately, the inner child work is not a part of the formal psychotherapy training. I think, it's because it sounds too "mystical" or "new agie" for the state to recognize something like that as a "medical" practice.

IMO, however, this should be the main focus of therapy for most people who are open to the concept of inner child. To me the inner child is the purest expression of life energy that needs to be freed if we want to enjoy life.

As I said, unfortunately, the inner child work is not a part of the formal therapy training, but many therapists tap into the inner child energy of their clients if they do art, play, music, dance or any other type of therapy that is based on encouraging free self-expression.

There is also a lot of information on the inner child work online that offers ideas and exercises on how to do this work on your own.

I was not fortunate enough to work with a therapist who did the inner child work, but I did some of it on my own.
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Ego State Therapy works on the child part. It is based on 3 parts: The Parent, The Adult, and the child. IFS is ego state therapy but google Ego state therapy.
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