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Old 07-16-2011, 10:06 AM   #1
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hi people ive never used this before so i hope im on the right thing. im going to see a psychologist soon and im afraid of speaking out about how i feel as i have a 16mth old daughter and i dont want them to think that i am incable of looking after her and put her into care because i feel this way. she is my star and the only thing that makes me smile sometimes i would protect her against everything i love her to bits and dont want them taking her away from me as she is not in any danger its just i feel so low all the time and cant cope with how i feel. does anybody no what i am trying to say? can anyone help? what would they do if i told them i feel really low and having suicidal thoughts?...... :'(
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Old 07-17-2011, 11:24 PM   #2
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They won't take away your daughter for being depressed, they'll get you the help you need and try to figure out a care plan for you. Maybe you'll need some medication and a friend or family member to pitch in for awhile and maybe some therapy. It's very common to have ppd, way more common than people think. Being a parent is really hard. Don't be afraid to be honest about how you're feeling, the fact that you care about your daughter and you want to get better will show the psychologist that you're a good mom and you are taking care of her.
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Old 07-20-2011, 03:08 PM   #3
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Talk to a doctor. They will not take your baby away. I was suffering from extreme depression during the end of my second pregnancy. (I have a six year old and a two year old.) I wrote my husband a note saying that I was leaving. I just wanted to die and I felt so guilty and ashamed because I had a special little girl and a sweet baby boy on the way. The next doctor's visit my husband brought the note and showed it to the doctor. She said there is no way that I should go on feeling like that and put me on a medication. It was risky considering I was pregnant but it was something I HAD to do. After I had my son, I switched to a different medication with a lower dosage and it helped me greatly.

Don't feel alone....just because no one talks about it doesn't mean they aren't going through the same thing.
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Old 07-21-2011, 08:02 PM   #4
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thank you for the replys its nice to know others have felt the same way. ive been on citalipram 40mg for over a year now and i dont feel its doing anything when i upped from 20 to 40 i felt better for a few days then i went back down again i wish i always had that feeling they gave me for a few days . i tried another anti depressent once which helps you sleep as im not sleeping properly and i felt i was drunk i couldnt walk straight and just conked out on my bed for 3 hours so i dont really fancy trying them again. i need to speak to my doctor and try some thing new. thanks again for showing your interest in my post i really appriciate it
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thank you for the replys its nice to know others have felt the same way. ive been on citalipram 40mg for over a year now and i dont feel its doing anything when i upped from 20 to 40 i felt better for a few days then i went back down again i wish i always had that feeling they gave me for a few days . i tried another anti depressent once which helps you sleep as im not sleeping properly and i felt i was drunk i couldnt walk straight and just conked out on my bed for 3 hours so i dont really fancy trying them again. i need to speak to my doctor and try some thing new. thanks again for showing your interest in my post i really appriciate it
Definitely talk to your doctor because they can prescribe you something that is in the same family of medicines that would work better than what you are on. I took Zoloft for a little while and it was not pretty but yet it seems to work for other people. You just need to find out what works best for you. Stay in touch!
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i have a young child and have depression. the doctors did ring social services but nt to panic ovr it. they give us family support. the reason why the doc rang them is because my depression gt really bad and i hd a SA. no1 is tryn to take away my child but they just make sure that were getting the help we need. its not easy telling the doc stuff i no. i didnt go 2 the doc ovr it either i was terrified they would take my child but they wnt do that. id advise u to go to the doc ull get the help u need that way
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i think that i understand what you are saying, and i think that you should have someone like a nanny stay with you and your daughter, just in case something were to happen to you... it would be a back-up plan, and it would mean that you can still be with your daughter, but she will have someone there, if you were to hurt yourself or kill yourself, it would be the best for both of you
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hi people ive never used this before so i hope im on the right thing. im going to see a psychologist soon and im afraid of speaking out about how i feel as i have a 16mth old daughter and i dont want them to think that i am incable of looking after her and put her into care because i feel this way. she is my star and the only thing that makes me smile sometimes i would protect her against everything i love her to bits and dont want them taking her away from me as she is not in any danger its just i feel so low all the time and cant cope with how i feel. does anybody no what i am trying to say? can anyone help? what would they do if i told them i feel really low and having suicidal thoughts?...... :'(
Hi I was in your position 13 yrs ago and believe me I wish I'd have told my psychiatrist the truth about my feelings and suicidal thoughts,however I didn't because someone told me I would have my children taken away from me and I believed them.
So now 13yrs on I'm back with a different psychiatrist who is asking why I have never mentioned these symptoms before,I told him and to be honest I don't think he believes me,so I've been taking medication for clinical depression with really bad episodes all these years when now it appears I'm bipolar with BPD. So please tell the truth for the sake of your child as you need to be there for her,and I promise its not like years ago,if anything social services work together with you if you need or ask for support,and they keep families together as much as they can,they don't take away kids unless severe neglect or abuse is present,which of course is not in your case,you can tell by the way you speak of your child.
Please just be honest
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They will not take your child away, but you definitely need to get help. Trust me. Don't allow feelings of guilt or worry keep you from getting help. I didn't seek help b/c I felt guilty that I was depressed and unhappy with my role as a mother. I felt like a mom shouldn't feel that way, and if I told people I felt that way they would think I was a terrible, selfish person. People don't really think that, though. And no one is going to take your child. Please get help, though. It's best for both you and your daughter. Love and hugs, from one mother to another.
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