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Old 02-13-2019, 01:39 AM #1
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My husband is unrealistically paranoid and he refused to believe the voices he hears aren't the neighbors talking about him. I have told him and 2 friends have told him we hear nobody talking. He says we can't hear. He doesn't know why he hasn't heard them before now he's lived in the same place with 1 neighbor remaining the same for over 25 years.
I got up about 2am and he wasn't inside so I opened the door to call him and he was down by our she'd which is in front of the tree line of the woods. He asked me to join him, I did. He had me watch a section of trees for a flashing light, which I never seen. He now thinks they have put up these game cameras to take pictures of him. While we stand there I again try to talk to him about going to a Dr. All of a sudden he gets angry, he hears the neighbors on the other side talking. I walk over and see nobody is outside, I go back and tell him but he says they must have went inside. Then he hushs me and is whispering so low I can barely make out what he's saying. He tells me they don't talk when I come outside and they know all of our business because they hear everything I say,even from inside.I lost it and said you want to hear people don't you? You won't listen to reason, no matter what I say or do you will just keep believing what you want and I walked away.

Please tell me how am I supposed to handle this?? 😲
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I think you need to first talk to his family about getting him help. I think it could get dangerous. I do not know what you do in this situation to force him to get help. There are things like the Baker act and stuff but if he isnt an actual danger yet..... well I dont know.
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He has been outside in the woods for 3 hours looking for a camera the camera our neighbors put there to get photos of him. I went out and looked as well (finding nothing). I said come out in the am when you can see. So now they will come get it right before daylight. He wants to stay out and catch them removing the camera. He says he will go to a Dr and maybe he was trying to prove to himself whether it was all real. But that's a crock of s***. He thinks he'll find proof.

Is there anything that makes voices more tolerable, besides medication. Sleep, a vitamin or something??
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He has been outside in the woods for 3 hours looking for a camera the camera our neighbors put there to get photos of him. I went out and looked as well (finding nothing). I said come out in the am when you can see. So now they will come get it right before daylight. He wants to stay out and catch them removing the camera. He says he will go to a Dr and maybe he was trying to prove to himself whether it was all real. But that's a crock of s***. He thinks he'll find proof.

Is there anything that makes voices more tolerable, besides medication. Sleep, a vitamin or something??
Unfortunately no. Hearing voices can be a result of a mental illness or in some cases a brain illness or neurological condition. Is he willing to see any doctor? I have heard stories of similar situations but then they find out someone has a growth on the brain or early signs of dementia or Parkinsons.
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I am ignorant about how things function in the US, but I did have a friend in rural Georgia which taught me that things function in their own way in that state.

I would say that you could call the police to investigate, but tell them on the call that you husband seems to be paranoid and irrational. Say that if this gets worse you might fear for your safety and ask them for mental health contacts in your area. I'm assuming that in a country area official people know each other personally. They might recommend a psychiatrist who could come out and talk to him, or even come out and pretend to look for the hidden cameras themselves.

Seems to me that in most country places things work by personal contacts. If you are being woken at 2 am, you need so support so that you can keep your own mental health together.

If you've known neighbours for 25 years, perhaps they can help you deal with police or psychiatrist so that you find someone sympathetic and trustworthy. If you don't get someone sympathetic on the first call, try again.

Depends on who you get. Some police are very sympathetic to mental illness. I've had kind sympathetic police arrive on a regular basis when I had a neighbour who was delusional.

Good luck - this sounds sad for you and very exhausting.
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He really sounds like he needs to see a psychiatrist. Medication is in general a lot more pleasant than psychosis. Is it ideal? No. I dont think you will see a lot of people walling down the street cheering that they get to take X medication for the rest of their lives... but imwhen the alternative is being out of your mind terrified (which he probably is- if its bad for you its probably 5 times worse for him- listen to how terrifying his thoughts must be for him! Constantly being afraid that people are out to hurt you- its like being stuck in a waking nightmare with no escape and everyonea- even the ones you love- are dismissing concerns that are very very real to you- its terrifying and horrible and very very isolating)

Medication is not evil. Medication helps lots of people “wake up” from something thats probably the scariest thing they have ever experienced in their entire life.

Please talk to someone about it. No one is better than someone else for not taking medication if they need it, no one is worse. And the shame around medication is silly when its between that and having someone you love potentially suffering in agony.

Maybe this is too heavy handed but seriously, psychosis is absolutely horrific and it general doesnt get better on its own. And even if it does- it comes back again and again worse each time. So please, talk to someone
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